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Why Do I Feel Lost? 3 Good Reasons You Are Lost

Have you ever felt like you’re wandering through life without direction, as if you’re part of a puzzle where the pieces don’t quite fit?

Feeling lost in life can be disheartening and confusing.

It’s like standing at a crossroads without a map, unsure of which path leads to fulfillment.

As someone who has navigated these murky waters and helped others do the same, I understand the intricacies of this lost to found journey.

You’re likely seeking guidance, reassurance, and actionable steps to find your way.

In this article, I’ll show you how the lost to found journey is a journey to the heart of life.

Why do I feel lost?


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1. You’re ready for a change

When you’re feeling lost in life, you may be ready for a change.

And change is scary.

The ancient Chinese philosopher, Lao Tzu says in the Tao Te Ching #22:  

“Bent over, you’ll be preserved whole;  When twisted, you’ll be upright;  When hollowed out, you’ll be full;  When worn out, you’ll be renewed;  When you have little, you’ll attain [much]…”

Lao Tzu reminds us that when we feel lost it can lead to renewal.

So, next time you have the thought:

I feel lost, I’ve got no idea what I’m going to do…

Remind yourself that feeling confused about your life is the first step to finding answers.

And maybe taking life into your own hands and changing something… will help you.

Transition times in life, like turning 40, are great times to assess if you need a change.

Most importantly, finding yourself is the ultimate goal.

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2. You have more to do with your life

In my experience as a life coach, feeling overwhelmed or confused, often means that you have something more to do with your life.

Something significant.

Whether it’s healing a trauma, suppressed emotions…

Or on the other end of the spectrum, you might have something important to achieve like writing a book, starting a new project or venture, or a new relationship.

If you’re lacking motivation, consider if you have something more inside of you waiting to come out.

So, if your heart feels lost, self discovery is important.

Remember that you don’t live your life for others, you live it to fulfill the needs of your soul.

Yet, self doubt creeps in because we feel judged for questioning, searching, and wondering.

Thankfully, being lost and confused can be a prelude to something new, better, and exciting. Here are three soulful reasons why feeling lost can be the beginning of something better. 

3. Your soul wants you to go deeper

It’s kind of beautiful, feeling lost and not knowing all the answers.

It usually means that your soul wants you to go deeper. You’re longing for more soulfulness in your life: Depth, meaning, fulfillment, and self-love.

What a great jumping off point!  

And there’s nothing more important in life than the journey to one’s self.

Even though it’s hard as $#&*.

If you feel a deeper longing in your soul, and a drive for something you don’t understand out of life, or a genuine desire for expression and leadership, then lean into the confusion. 

Lean into those feelings because it’s time to go deeper.

You might walk on coals with Tony Robbins, if he does that anymore.

I did it…

Or consider a drumming circle.

And read everything you can find to shed some light on what’s true for you.

Feel lost if you’re lost! Trust that it’s the soul’s way of talking to you.

Don’t you have to wonder about people who think they have all of the answers? I certainly do.

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Follow your soul’s longing

While you feel lost and confused, there’s a deeper part of you that’s not. 

You’re a brave soul who’s got the guts to admit that you’re human, fallible, and feeling lost. 

The part of you that knows best will surface eventually. 

Your soul holds the roadmap for your life.

Feeling lost is the beginning point of soul searching.

As you stay open, keep asking questions, continue to heal your life, and commit to self-love, you’ll find what you’re looking for.

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We want answers…

If you’ve ever felt lost in life…

Often, we hate feeling lost because we need certainty.  We want an answer. We want one thing to grasp onto.

Plus, we don’t like the idea of being lost.  The word lost has a negative connotation because it insinuates that we’ve failed, or we’re not quite good enough at life, or we fear we won’t find motivation in life.

However, if you’re in your late 20’s to early 40’s and you don’t know where you’re going, you’re in good company. 

Millennials seek psychotherapy more often than members of Generation X or earlier generations,” says Psychology Today. 

And while therapy is routine for many of us, millennials in particular feel lost in life, confused, and doubtful at times. 

An Atlantic article that begins, “Hello, lost generation,” goes on to say, “There’s no good news in a recession, and no good news in a pandemic.  For millennials, it feels like there is never any good news at all.”

When you feel lost, there’s a lot of pressure to be found. We’re all supposed to have a life path, so they say. We have a longing to know which direction we’re headed.

However, we’ve lost sight of the importance of searching. Searching can be an important first step to begin a life path that’s meant for you.

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9 strategies for when you’re feeling lost

Here is a list of tools, tips, and techniques to help ease the struggle when you feel lost.

Remember, your soul will be lost at times and you can always be found.

1. Breathe more often

When you have that lost feeling, it’s helpful to breathe because it calms the mind and grounds you.

Use the breath to relax the body and calm the limbic brain (fight or flight).  Again, there are countless breath techniques.  Here’s an easy one that I like:  Inhale 4 counts, exhale for 8 counts. 

It sounds so small, but it’s not.

When you’re lost, you probably hold your breath and that creates anxiety. Instead, be mindful of your breath throughout whatever major life changes are happening.

2. Talk with your spirit guides

Whether this idea is new to you or not, you have an entire spirit team available to help you when you’re feeling lost in life.

Spend time each day asking for soul guidance.

This is essential.

Here’s a deeper dive into if your spirit guides are real.

And, hopefully you’ll find this article helpful, 3 kinds of questions to ask your spirit guides.

When you’re losing interest in things that used to bring you joy, or you’re going through some kind of existential crisis, turn to your spirit guides.

I ask for spiritual guidance throughout the day, every day. They are here 24/7 to help you find your true self.

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3. Think high vibration

How you are thinking about feeling lost will have a direct affect you.

Your thoughts are powerful. Profound thoughts are part of the journey!

For further reading, the power of thought and how negative thinking is literally killing people is the main theme in my futuristic, self-help book, The Thought Store.

Good vibes are not new age nonsense… We feel the energy of our thoughts, emotions, other people, places, etc.

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4. Self love habits

Self love helps you when you’re lost or there are major life changes.

As you love yourself more, you don’t judge yourself for being lost. Instead, you see it as part of you soul’s path.

To help you have the habit of self-love, I’ve created 200 affirmations for self love. Say about 10 affirmations a day and see yourself slowly change.

In addition, here’s the self love plan I’ve created that my clients use. Read these 3 self-love habits each day and watch yourself create the habit of self-love.

5. Stay in the present moment

Living in the present moment is a KEY coping strategy when you’re feeling overwhelmed.

It’s obvious that when you’re not worrying about the future feeling bleak, or regretting the past, you’ll feel more grounded.

Here’s how to stop living in the past to help you bring yourself into the pristine moment.

6. Prayers and Mantras

Prayers and mantras are extremely important for calming the mind and connecting within. You can recite calming prayers and mantras as a regular way of calming your mind, body, and soul throughout the day.

Find mantras that resonate with YOU or take you to a place you aspire to. Mantras are a great way to fill your brain with positive energy.

7. Soul Care

Soul care is is the work and play you do to care for your unique soul.

The soul needs authentic expression, emotional expression, self-compassion and love, and so much more.

Soul care that comes from a love of being human fosters feelings of self-acceptance and self-forgiveness.

As a soulful person, you’ll also want to keep a journal.

This will be your Soul Journal. A SOUL JOURNAL helps you connect with the part of you that is eternal, clear, and unique. Use the journal as a mind dump: ask yourself what you need, how you feel, what you’re thinking about. Just get it out.

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8. Meditation Apps

There are apps to help you meditate in a melodious way. These apps help you improve sleep, reduce anxiety, improve focus, and people claim a number of other benefits. Meditation will help you when you’re feeling lost.

Meditation is an important part of self care.

9. Emotional Freedom Technique (Tapping)

I’ve personally used tapping or the Emotional Freedom Technique in my own life and I recommend it to clients as well as my own sons! It’s a proven technique for moving emotional energy out of the body.

Tapping can be useful for alleviating any stress around feeling lost.

Here are over 30 emotional release techniques to help you in addition to tapping.

Final thoughts

Feeling lost is uncomfortable for most of us, but it can also be the prelude to greater self-awareness.

Typically, feeling lost is a prelude to the inner work. If we’re were completely satisfied, we would do nothing right?

However, take comfort in knowing that there’s a path that’s meant for you. You’ve been called into this life to use your talents and gifts in a way that’s unique to you. There’s nothing random about your life.

Take feeling lost as a sign post that you’ve got more to do and trust that you’ll uncover what that is. Hopefully, these 3 soulful reasons have increased your understanding of what it means to feel lost in life.

Stay open to what’s best for you, enjoy the search, be OK with being stuck for a time, and dream of what great future you’re creating. It’s all part of the process.

Feeling lost can be the beginning of finding yourself.

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