Do you wish you had authentic, positive self-talk?
Because your mind is going, going, and much of it is garbage, boring, or negative?
Well, you’re not alone!
I am IN THIS BUSINESS… and I have to reel myself in from low vibe self-talk.
I’m much better now, but it’s taken some of practice.
The mind is like a computer, so we must program it with high-vibration thoughts and positive self talk.
There are many benefits of positive thinking.
1. Positive self-talk is one of your purposes.
Talking kindly to yourself is part of your purpose.
For you to evolve your soul, you must use self-talk that’s self-loving, patient, and compassionate towards you.
So, think: This is one of my purposes!
Be very patient with yourself as you have negative thinking, because this takes time and practice.
But first, no toxic positivity.
One rule of thumb I insist upon with myself and anyone who’ll listen is this…
I wrote a Dr. Seuss-type poem about toxic positivity to help clients balance negative thinking with positive self-talk.
Everything sounds better in rhyme, so go here to encourage positive self-talk.
2. Be careful what you say to yourself!
The hands down best book on this subject is Shad Helmstetter’s What You Say When You Talk to Yourself.
I found it in my 20’s and what a miracle finding that was!
I highly recommend you add this book to your library… you can’t be without it.
In my post, Express my Feelings: How to do the Best Self-talk, I focus on self-talk that will invite you to feel the wide range of your emotions.
This includes honoring what’s true for you, giving yourself space to for emotional expression both to yourself and others, and having the practice of asking yourself regularly: How do I feel in this moment?
What you say when you talk to yourself.
Shad Helmstetter is my hero.
He’s an author and motivational speaker who has written extensively about self-talk.
Honestly, his book changed my life. I have the original copy sitting on my nightstand as I write!
Shad Helmstetter advocates that we can change our lives by changing our self-talk.
Replace negative self talk with positive self talk.
He says that we should be aware of the negative aspects of our self-talk, and that we should replace negative self-talk with positive self-talk.
He also says that we should emphasize positive self-talk every day, and that we should be patient with ourselves as we change our self-talk.
On page 25 he writes, “You will become what you think about most your success or failure in anything larger small will depend on your programming what you accept from others and what you say when you talk to yourself.”
“It is no longer a Success Theory: it is a simple, but powerful, fact. neither left nor desire has the slightest thing to do with it. it makes no difference whether we believe it or not the brain simply believes what you tell it most and what you tell it about you, it will create. it has no choice.”
A light bulb came on…
After I read this, a light bulb went off. My brain is a computer? And what I tell it most it believes?
While it’s taken years to improve the quality of my self-talk, it’s FAR and away better, more self-loving, and empowering than it was in my earlier years.
So, believe in yourself when it comes to this: You are what you tell yourself, so be kind.
Some other ideas for being aware of your current negative self-talk and flipping it to more positive self-talk are here.
3. Keep a journal of your thoughts.
To get you started, journaling is a good way to dump all of your low-vibe thoughts onto the page. this way you can see them with your own eyes!
Don’t worry though… we all have thoughts unconscious beliefs and feelings we’re not proud of. The whole point of positive self-talk is to be aware of it.
As Eckhart Tolle says in A New Earth, “Awareness is the greatest agent for change.”
So, being aware of negative thinking will help you turn negative self talk into positive self talk.
Then, after you’ve written all of those thoughts… go into the backyard and blow it up. Just kidding… but this is your personal space, so keep it safe.
It’s important that you feel safe expressing yourself.
This can help you to become more aware of your negative self-talk and help you track your inner voice and progress as you work to change it.
Choose a journal that you like and that you feel comfortable writing in. It should be something that you enjoy using and that you will be motivated to keep up with.
I offer specific tips on journaling in articles for journaling.
4. Practice positive affirmations.
In Think and Grow Rich, by Napoleon Hill, written in 1937 and one of the highest-selling books of ALL TIME, he said…
And certainly one of the top of positive thinking books.
“You have absolute control over one thing and that is your thoughts. The most significant and inspiring of all facts known to man.” ~ Napoleon Hill, Think and Grow Rich
And affirmations help you get there.
Affirmations are high-vibration statements that you repeat to yourself. They can help to grow in self-love and self-confidence.
I use the term high-vibe thinking™ to describe thoughts that lift your energy.
They make you feel good!
They remind you of your strength and perseverance.
They can be about anything you want to improve in your life, such as your mental or physical health, or, relationships, or career.
When you say high-vibe affirmations, you are literally raising your energy frequency!
High-vibe affirmations can be a powerful tool for self-improvement. They can help you to:
- Increase your self-esteem and confidence
- Improve your mood and perspective
- Reduce stress and anxiety
- Fulfill your destiny
- Be more successful in all areas of your life
- Create loving relationships
If you are looking to improve your life, quality affirmations are a great place to start. There are many different ways to use high-vibe thinking™, so find what works best for you.
You can say them out loud, write them down, or even sing them! The important thing is to be consistent and commit to yourself.
NOTE: You do NOT have to believe the thoughts for them to take root! Say them to help you cultivate belief.
My post on 307 affirmations for self-love offers over 300 fantastic affirmations to help you!
It is important to choose affirmations that are specific, positive, and believable.
For example, instead of saying I will be happy, you could say, I am happy. I am statements are powerful brain computer terms!
And remember, your intention determines if you bring positive energy into a room.
Positive affirmations spoken, thoughts, written… whatever feels best must be done daily, if not more than once a day.
I use mantras and prayers throughout my day to keep my head in the right space.
5. Take care of yourself… and your soul.
Care of the soul and being soulful is at the center of the work I do. Just about everything I write about is grounded in this idea:
What does my soul need here?
Ask yourself that question and see what comes up for you.
Remember, what you focus on expands.
After I lost my husband, I had to find myself again, and a big part of that was dramatically improving my self-talk.
6. Be kind to yourself.
This is at the heart of positive self-talk.
If it’s true that what we tell ourselves the most, we believe, then it’s critical that we tell ourselves things that empower us.
The soul is here for something very specific and it can’t get there with low self-esteem and negative self-talk.
Yet, we’ve all been hurt and we have our long black bag of pains we carry around. So, the work is to heal our lives.
Kindness happens with a balance of high-vibe thinking and feeling our way through everything.
7. Say good job!
Since it takes time to regularly have positive self-talk, each time you say something loving or supportive or patient to yourself, say: Good job!
That was great, Jeanne! But you insert your name:)
Keep it up!
Changing your self-talk takes time and effort, but it is possible. With practice, you have positive self talk that replaces your negative thoughts with high-vibe ones.
This will help you to feel better about yourself and to achieve your goals.
Changing your self-talk takes time and effort, but it’s totally possible!
If it weren’t possible to have positive self-talk, I would bother writing this article!
Our self-talk is often deeply ingrained, and it can be difficult to change. We may have been telling ourselves negative things for years, and it can be hard to break those habits. So take heart!
Additionally, our self-talk is often automatic, so we may not even be aware of it. This can make it difficult to identify the negative self-talk and change it.
Finally, it can be helpful to seek professional help if you are struggling to change your self-talk. A therapist can help you to identify and change your negative self-talk, and they can also provide support and encouragement.
I always say: ask for help when you need it.
And, come back and read this post often!