Believe in Yourself Now! 5 Simple Steps for You

You want to believe in yourself because you’ve got big dreams.

You want to heal people, teach, invent the cure for cancer, build hope with your beautiful voice, and so much more.

However, time is passing and maybe you’re doubting yourself.

You see a lot of other people doing the same thing that you want to do and it’s made you wonder…

They’re already doing it. I won’t be any better. I don’t have what it takes.

So, now you want to run away and live in a cave.

Or, maybe that’s just me.

But, don’t run to a cave quite yet! First, it’s important that you understand a few things about how to believe in yourself.

What Does It Mean to Believe in Yourself?

As a person who’s considered an expert on the power of thought… I’ve written a book about it and taught positive thinking in hospitals and schools, I’m obsessed with it.

High-vibe thought is an amazing tool we each have within us to create what we desire.

Although it’s some work to improve our thinking, all you have to do is practice each day and stick with it.

Beliefs are Deeply Held Thoughts

Beliefs are simply deeply held thoughts.

We not only think them, consciously and unconsciously, but we in our bones believe them to be true.

That’s belief.

And it can be positive or negative.

Positive belief in yourself is when you believe you have what it takes to accomplish something important to you. You believe in your abilities.

1. Believe Your Soul Knows What You Can Do

If you’re a soulful person, the needs of your soul hold a central place in your life.

And the soul holds the blueprint for your life.

The blueprint is an outline of what is possible in your own life.

However, because of free will, you are the one who will choose what to do and not do.

Your soul is the place of deep knowing within you that’s eternal, connected to the divine, and knows what you’re capable of doing with your life.

As a soul coach, this is what I write about and teach, and it’s where I get my self-confidence and self-belief.

Live With a Sense of Spirit

This is why a spiritual life will help you with low self-confidence, negative thoughts, negative emotions, self-sabotage, and the many other ways we limit ourselves.

As you have a stronger relationship with your own soul and something bigger, you feel confident because you realize that you’re not doing your life alone.

Plus, there’s a reason for you to be here. So, you must connect with this reason.

To begin, find yourself, love yourself, and commit to self-knowledge. For example, know what you’re good at, what you excel at, what you must learn, and your unique special sauce.

Beware of having tunnel vision about how your talents must be used. Instead, ask the universe for spiritual guidance.

Belief is built over time for most of us. Very few people pop out of the womb with tons of belief in themselves. But, it happens!

You’ve got what it takes to do what your soul is here for!

2. Build Confidence by Doing

To believe in yourself, you must jump in and do it, whatever it is. You must start somewhere.

And if you love Mary Oliver as I do, you’ll trust the first line of her poem, Wild Geese, which says: You do not have to be good.

When you first start something, you won’t be good at it! And it’s OK!

To believe in yourself, you must keep going! Practice over and over again. Put yourself out there over and over again… and discover what works and what doesn’t.

Success is not build overnight!

If I had quit in the first years of being a life coach and entrepreneur, I’d have failed for sure. It’s taken years to reach the point I’m at now.

But, I believed that this was the universe’s plan for my life. This is God’s plan for my life. So, I kept moving forward, finding the resources, practicing different things, and slowly over time I saw more success.

You will have to dig in deep and ask yourself: Is this how I can serve this world best? Is this how the universe wants to use me?

Then, go out into the world and participate! Try out the things you’re interested in. Take a class. Expand your knowledge. Get some experience. All of these actions build self-confidence and help you believe in yourself.

3. Incorporate Positive Self-Talk

Self talk is what you say when you talk to yourself… and it matters a lot for building self-belief.

I read What you Say When You Talk to Yourself by Shad Helmstetter Ph.D. over 25 years ago I realized that negative self-talk is not a good way to believe in yourself.

Not a single bit.

Negative thinking creates negative emotions. I talk about that extensively in my blog post Express my Feelings: How to Do The Best Self-talk.

And negative self-talk creates low self-confidence, low self-esteem, and low everything!

If you think that mildly criticizing yourself is innocent enough, it’s truly not.

Here’s the 3 minute audio with affirmations and self-talk to help you believe in yourself.

Self belief comes from self honesty

If you’ve ever watched a reality show where people with no talent are convinced they are talented, you’ve witnessed people living in a fantasy world.

They have all of this self confidence when they really shouldn’t!

Fantasy is defined as the faculty or activity of imagining things, especially things that are impossible or improbable.

So you may wonder about yourself… Is this something I can actually accomplish or am I living in a fantasy?

This is an excellent question, and if you’re self-aware enough to ask this question, then good for you.

These kinds of questions are excellent, so you’ll ultimately believe in yourself.

Ask Questions That Build Confidence and Self-belief.

To build self-confidence and self-belief, it’s important to acquire self-knowledge! Be able to see your strengths and weaknesses.

Here are some questions to ask yourself to build self-knowledge. And as they say, Knowledge is power.

Questions to Ask Yourself

What comes naturally to you?

What do others say you’re good at? 

What do you love? What do you enjoy?  What gets you most excited?

What did you have prior knowledge about? No one ever mentioned it to you, you just knew about it on some level.

What are your stengths?

What situations challenge you the most?

The Ultimate Question

What do you feel you must do, and if you don’t your potential will be unfulfilled?

This last question takes some time and thought, so don’t rush to answer it too quickly.

To believe in yourself, have an honest relationship with yourself, not a critical one.

4. Practice Self-Love

Self-love is such a key ingredient of the soulful person and self-belief. They go hand in hand.

As you grow in self-love, your self doubt doesn’t magically disappear. I know this!

However, because you have more self-compassion, self-tolerance, and self-patience, you don’t criticize yourself for not being a fast learner.

Now, doesn’t that feel better? Does your own behavior shift toward radical self acceptance when you bring your soul into the conversation?

Don’t you feel some space around your judgment?

I hope so!

5. High-vibe Thinking and Feeling.

I’m not a fan of the term positive thinking. I prefer positive thinking habits for two reasons.

First, toxic positivity, when people are inauthentic with themselves and ignore their emotions, is not the goal in life and is both hurtful and harmful.

Second, positive thinking habits include the habit of thinking: I feel BLANK… and it’s OK. We must feel our emotions to be able to let go and be in the present.

Positive thinking habits

To believe in yourself, you’ll want to practice positive thinking habits.

In my book, The Thought Store: 8 Simple Thinking Habits for Work and Life, I illustrate thinking habits that will help you believe in yourself.

Believe in yourself quotes to help get rid of your fears and self-doubt

Quotes are always handy when you need a quick boost of self belief or self confidence.

Here are some of my favorites:

“Whatever you want in life, other people are going to want it too. Believe in yourself enough to accept the idea that you have an equal right to it.” ~ Diane Sawyer

Tony Robbins Quotes on Self-Belief

I’m a huge Tony Robbins fan. My husband and I walked on hot coals with him back in the early 1990’s.

It was amazing… walking on fire can change your life!

Here are some of my favorite Tony Robbins quotes on how to believe in yourself:

“Your past does not equal your future.” This belief is a game changer! If you want to believe in yourself, don’t repeat the past, but, don’t let it tell you that you can’t do more.

“The path to success is to take massive, determined action.” I LOVE this quote because it’s so true.

Once you believe in yourself, you must take repeated action. So that means you have to hold the faith right?

Some days you may believe in yourself and some days you’re buried in self doubt. So, taking regular action while building belief in yourself is a great strategy.

“If you can’t, you must. If you must, you can.” This is my favorite Tony quote. I heard it the first time at his fire walk event.

Quite honestly, I didn’t understand it.

My husband, my brother in law and I were walking around saying to one another, “If we can’t, we must!” But, we truly didn’t get it!

Now, years later I see how this will help you believe in yourself.

And it’s more in the second half of that quote: If you must, you can.

If there is something you feel you MUST do, and you sit quietly, go within, you ask your source of guidance and you determine that this is what you must do, this implies a soulful must.

Final thoughts

Self-doubt is part of your path to who you’re meant to be.

Yet, you may not believe in yourself, so it’s frustrating.

Intuitively we know we have more to do in our life! We have some blurry outline of what we’re meant to do. Or some of us do.

To believe in yourself, you must commit to fulfilling your potential.

To believe in yourself, you’ll want to connect deeper, to as far down as the soul.

The soul holds the blueprint for your life and to believe in yourself, you’ll want to know what the blueprint holds for you.

It takes time and patience, so give yourself that.

Again, here’s the 3 minute audio with affirmations and self-talk to help you believe in yourself.