“And if I don’t
I will die,
because I have to be
So … I wrote a poem about this when I was about 8 years.
A caterpillar is destined to be a butterfly. It’s in the cards.
This grayish green, wet crinkled straw paper looking insect turns into a magnificent, flying example of transformation.
Of being true to yourself.
Yet, the road getting there is a winding one at that.
Decades later I wrote a book about it. In my story, my sweet caterpillar is terrified of leaving the garden.
She is terrified of the unknown.
And of dropping into the well of all healing.
Yet, she does.
It’s her destiny.
And she doesn’t even know it. But, destiny knows it.
Something bigger knows it.
She takes that giant leap of faith … or that giant crawl of perseverance.
All sixteen legs are in.
She knows something more is out there and she must know what that is.
The pieces within her that she’s ignored will not be ignored any longer.
The still place within her that speaks to her at night … will not be kept asleep.
This inner place knows exactly who you are and what your life is for.
The place of purpose and soul.
I’ve always felt this sense of purpose …
I remember being in any group where someone was speaking: our synagogue, school auditorium, etc. and thinking, I will be speaking to this many people some day.
And yet, I was terrified of public speaking, rejection, and failing.
So, this was a problem.
Little did I know my form of speaking would be through the internet … and not directly in front of people.
Our purpose takes many shapes.
THE BOTTOM FELL OUT.
Then, over ten years ago, I lost my husband of 23 years.
The bottom fell out of my life so to speak. I was lost.
But, an inner voice wouldn’t leave me alone. I needed to live the life I knew was out there for me.
The life I could always see but it hadn’t happened yet.
This lead me to a wonderful and winding inner journey … and at the end of that journey, I found a love of my own soul and my purpose.
After years of confusion, I was no longer afraid of my purpose. I discovered something deeper and undeniable within me.
The thing about purpose is … recognizing the thing you MUST do … and then narrowing in on what that looks like.
And the thing you MUST do may have many different forms of expression throughout your life … and it probably will.
It creates a deeply fulfilling and fun life when you express your purpose in all the ways that it’s meant to be expressed.
For example, my purpose is to use my passion for expression to empower and inspire others.
Well, this has taken many forms: writing books, writing poetry, speaking, teaching, creating online courses. The central question always being: How can I express this in a way that will serve others?
I love asking this question … and then answering it.
That is the beauty of knowing your purpose … it GUIDES you, every day.
All we have to do is follow it.
“Lack of focus leads to a lack of greatness.” ~ Jerry Seinfeld
So, why do I bring this up?
Because a lot of people want to do something with their lives.
However, they’re afraid they won’t be great at it.
Yet, when we focus, we can get great at it.
We may not be the best … but we get better and better. (Only one person can be the best anyway.)
Focus, keep doing it, and getting better at it.
And here’s why it’s worth the effort:
The soulful desires we have: those desires are given to us.
As a soul coach, when I talk about purpose and desire … I am NOT saying this lightly:
We are given a specific make up (desire and ability) to see through a specific purpose or purposes.
If you doubt this … please don’t.
Because once you believe this, you’ll be unstoppable.
This is what I experienced.
I doubted, doubted, questioned, wondered …
While I told myself: Don’t believe those limits you’ve set. Don’t believe them. You were given talents, etc. for a good reason. Doubting it only keeps you from helping the world.
And who does that serve?
When we figure out our place in the world … we CAN become great at it.
Large or small.
Summer and fall.
It doesn’t matter, it’s just you using your special combo for a purpose that’s particular to YOU.
And everyone wins:)
#soul #jeannenanglesoulcoach #self-love #Seinfeld
“The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, but expecting different results.”
Of course this also applies to how we treat ourselves.
So, I want to encourage you to do things differently.
I am excited that apparently … a lot of people believe in the importance of self-love!
I’ve had hundreds of people personally inquire and many of them enroll in The Power of Self-love already!
I am happy to see people taking this very important step for themselves.
Because to truly love yourself and …
Treat yourself with love …
And feel secure in who you are … is the BEST gift you can give yourself AND those around you!
Seriously! You’re not the only one who benefits!
Your children benefit because they see the example of someone who knows how to love themselves.
And believe me when I tell you, this WILL influence how they treat themselves.
Not to mention how your spouse or partner will benefit from being with a more secure person.
I stress this point, because if you’re on the fence about investing in yourself,
then I hope to move you off the fence.
Because I wouldn’t want to see you stuck indefinitely. And quite honestly, I’ve seen that happen.
Taking action, DOING something different is vitally important.
Otherwise nothing changes. And we stay the same.
#self-love #soul #Einstein #jeannenanglesoulcoach
Do secure people feel shame and guilt? Definitely!
I sure have … and do.
Yet, much of the stuff I’ve been ashamed of wasn’t my fault …
While some of it was.
Sometimes we are ashamed of being different or coming from families that are different, whatever that means.
Guilt and shame are part of life, it’s what we do with it that determines how self-loving we are.
It’s actually been measured… and shame is one of the lowest level, most painful emotions that exist.
And we can still love ourselves through it. We really can.
So we will feel good enough for the lives we want.
The human spirit is remarkably resilient.
I’ve seen people triumph after unspeakable tragedies. They just keep putting one foot in front of the other each day.
And yet, it helps to have skills … to help us along.
This is part of self-love, learning how to care for your emotional self, so you will feel secure and lovable, in spite of what’s happened to you.
Then, the strength of your spirit is able to come forward.
#self-love #soul #humanspirit #jeannenanglesoulcoach
Is there a part of you that knows there’s more to life?
Or … more to your life?
And you want to jump in …
But, you just can’t quite figure this part out?
I know the feeling.
Being ready, willing, and able to jump into your life and yet doubting some part of it or you.
Elton John has this beautiful song in Goodbye Yellow Brick Road called: This song has no title.
In the song he says:
Look in the mirror and stare at myself,
And wonder if that’s really me on the shelf.
This song hits me where I live.
And I’m not even sure I understand it.
But, somewhere within me I do.
At times … have I left myself on the shelf?
I think that’s the line that lingers with me.
So, if this resonates with you at all …
Then, I want to encourage you to jump into your life.
By loving yourself … enough.
Because … it begins with us.
This is the power of self-love.
When you begin loving yourself … you empower yourself.
You jump in.
It’s how we become the powerful people we are destined to become.
We love ourselves … so we can lead full lives.
And to that end …
#self-love #soul #jeannenanglesoulcoach
When we feel like we’re not quite good enough, it feels like something took the wind out of our sails.
But, someone said to me once …
You are the wind.
I laughed for a moment and then I realized he was right.
No one can take the wind out of my sails …
I can love myself enough and put the wind BACK into those sails!
However, when we’re lacking in self-love, we lose this belief.
Self-love is so empowering because it dials down our fear, way down.
And self-love reminds us that we can create the love and happiness we desire.
Because self-love reminds us that we are more than the past.
Self-love elevates our thinking.
Self-love helps us live more purposefully.
Self-love creates calm and connection.
Self-love makes us more secure.
So, you don’t have to feel you aren’t good enough in ANY area of your life … and I hope you won’t!
The Power of Self-love … empowers us to feel more secure in ourselves and self-loving!
#self-love #soul #jeannenanglesoulcoach
Am I good enough?
I am fascinated by this question because …
We’re born as sweet little children who believe we’re invincible … we’re good enough for anything.
Astronauts, rock stars, healers, lovers …
Then life slowly happens and we dial it down …
And frankly, this is JUST FINE, because we’re all meant for different things.
But, here’s where it gets interesting.
But, here’s where it gets interesting …
What is realistic for you?
Or a better question is: What is right for you?
Is a soulmate relationship that is harmonious and very satisfying … is that right for you?
Is work that shares your talents and you enjoy it … is that right for you?
How about feeling comfortable in your own skin …
Or feeling secure within yourself.
Or feeling good enough.
Feeling good enough … even with being weak sometimes.
I have to confess, in my 20’s and 30’s I was literally terrified of appearing weak.
There’s a library of psychological data to explain my issue here … but let’s just say: I hated weakness in general.
And I certainly hated it in myself.
It takes awhile to accept ourselves.
It took me a long while to accept any weaknesses …and to not run away from this part of me.
(Interesting that someone who teaches self-love had issues with weakness! It’s all part of preparing ourselves …)
Anyway, back to … Am I good enough?
And here’s the answer: Yes and … we have to face ourselves.
As we face ourselves and love ourselves … we start to truly in our bones believe:
I’m good enough.
I am receiving greatness into my life.
I’m ready to put my baggage down.
We can put down the baggage we’re carrying.
As we love ourselves … the weight we’ve been carrying, we put it down.
Whatever burden we’ve been carrying … we slowly put it down.
And yes, we all have different burdens with different intensities … but, we can put it down.
And as we do, we begin feeling lighter.
We realize we do not have to go through life carrying a heavy burden.
Seriously, thank goodness …
As we love ourselves, we lighten our load, and we feel good enough.
Each year we get to start fresh. I truly believe that. The ending of a year is significant.
We get only so many years in one life … and each calendar year marks what we’ve learned, what we saw, and what we did.
A lot is packed into one year.
So, in the spirit of starting the year with a clean slate, consider this: You deserve love, you deserve success, you deserve to be happy.
Sure, you have some work to do to get there … but that’s not so bad right?
What better thing is there to do?
Anew (definition): in a new or different and typically more positive way.
No matter what we’ve done that we wish we hadn’t … we get to begin anew.
Some road under my shoes
While I say this to you in a lighthearted way … I’m saying it with some road under my shoes.
I, like many of you, have said and done things I’d love to redo.
If only …
I’ve made mistakes, struggled, and looked like a fool. And after all of that … no surprise here, I’ll doubt myself.
When we stumble … we doubt ourselves.
I understand … like Ph. D. level understanding, how it feels to truly doubt yourself in some area of life.
Yet NOW … I help others overcome self-doubt, self-judgment, self-rejection and love themselves.
Because I believe in it.
But, only after I’ve learned to love myself.
We make a message of our mess
Have you heard the saying: We make a message of our mess?
Well, it’s true.
Whatever mess you’ve made, you get to clean it up and then, possibly, help others clean up the messes of their lives.
None of us are getting out of this unscathed right?
We all get to stumble and make a message of our mess.
Happy new year to YOU and may you begin anew.
May you love yourself enough to begin anew.
Is self-love selfish?
No … of course not!
Because wanting to be a better person is not selfish.
Self-love comes from three areas … and it is not selfish to think about them:
1. Living with purpose.
2. Growing our self-esteem and sense of security.
3. Believing in ourselves.
Living with purpose is pursuing OUR WAY of making the world better.
This way we share our gifts with the world … which we are meant to do.
It’s a win, win this way ….
Living with purpose is saying to yourself:
I’m good at this … now go do it and don’t doubt it!
Second, self-esteem is respecting and no longer rejecting ourselves.
Instead, we become secure in who we are.
We feel secure in our own skin … a goal worth fighting for.
And third, belief is honoring our spiritual nature.
The part of us that is connected to something sacred and eternal that wants our highest good.
When we keep this in mind, we realize we are far more than our limiting beliefs.
Self-love comes in many forms … and it’s certainly a journey to arrive there.
However, it’s an extremely worthwhile journey … one that positively impacts everyone around you.
When we love ourselves, we have more love to give.
Wishing you a happy and healthy new year!
What is Self-love PDF 1.1
“I love you,”
she heard herself say.
She leaned into the stone,
and the stone moved its way.
In this stanza from The Butterfly Silhouette, the caterpillar has been struggling in a puddle, and she is stuck beneath a stone.
She’s scared and wonders if she’ll break free.
Who is she speaking to?
Herself? God? Someone else? The universe?
The reader can decide.
For me … she felt love for herself and a higher power in that moment.
And this is one and the same.
When the caterpillar is stuck and can’t move and fears the end is near … she is no longer thinking.
And in this place the only words she utters are: I love you.
She felt both loved and loving.
In those moments we KNOW we are so much more than our earthly experience.
We have an experience of loving in spite of …
Ten years ago, I would NEVER have even used the term self-love, I would have found it cliche and dare I say it, self absorbed …
No longer. Not a bit.
On a following page, after the caterpillar moved the stone:
She passed through a threshold,
as some creatures do.
In the puddle’s dark depths,
she learned what was true.
When we love ourselves despite being laid out in a puddle, underneath a stone …
THEN, we’ve found something precious.
Because lack of self-love keeps stones in our way.
And we need to move that stone:)
I’ve been re-reading my book, The Butterfly Silhouette lately and feeling touched by my confused, lost … and very brave caterpillar.
The richness of this metaphor STAYS with me all the time.
Because a caterpillar is destined to be a butterfly. It’s written in the stars.
This weepy looking insect turns into a magnificent, flying example of transformation.
She is emerging into something new.
And finding her place in the world.
Or her next place.
Fear of failure.
The road getting there is a winding one at that.
My earnest, afraid caterpillar is terrified of the unknown.
And she doesn’t want to fail.
Yet, the caterpillar goes on this journey outside of the garden.
And takes that giant leap of faith or that giant crawl of perseverance.
All sixteen legs are in.
My caterpillar knows something more is out there and she must know what that is.
This time fear of the unknown doesn’t matter.
The caterpillar finds her courage.
Then, she leaves what is comfortable to go out into the world.
Where the caterpillar discovers self-love.
Her place in the world.
Once she finds self-love, she is able to move the stones along her path out of her way.
Now she is able to step into her place in it all.
#self-love, #purpose, #yourplaceintheworld
There was a fine day.
There was a fine day.
A beautiful day.
So glad to be in it
And feeling this way.
Then right out of nowhere
I feel a bit blue.
It doesn’t belong here!
Which feeling is true?
I suddenly feel sadder, not gladder,
I’m left feeling something
SOME say doesn’t matter.
Some say it won’t stay.
Some say it won’t stay,
just focus on the day.
They say I should make
my sad heart go away.
So I turn my attention
to a bold and bright story,
so I can move on
from the sad and the gory.
I like this idea.
I like this idea
and it works for a minute.
But then later on
my heart’s right back in it.
What is the answer?
I yell when I’m mad.
Which should I do
Be sad or think glad?
I hear in a whisper
a very loud voice.
It’s right in my head
so I don’t have a choice!
Be sad AND think glad!
Not just for a minute!
You need to feel sad,
while your heart is still in it!
But there’s a mistake!
But there’s a mistake
many sad folks might make.
They hold to their sadness,
And plant a deep stake.
This kind of sad thinkin’
will end in your ruin.
You’ll never escape
from the sadness you’re brewin’.
What do you mean?
You said to be sad!
You said it’s OK!
You said I’d be glad.
Go there, yes go there!
But keep in your thoughts:
The best of ideas,
the highest of watts!
While you are sad,
and listening to your heart,
Think of what’s good,
That’s a really good start.
Your head needs to help.
Your heart must be felt,
there can be little doubt.
While your head needs to help,
your heart find it’s way out.
Be sad till you’re finished,
even though it’s not fun.
Your sadness won’t leave
if you’re tempted to run.
Your heart is your heart,
it has all the clout!
Your heart doesn’t care
what your head is about.
So feel what is real
and trust in the day.
And keep your thoughts bright
till the clouds move away.
Does this question sound ridiculous to you?
Please read further because … it’s not so ridiculous!
While being happy rocks, let’s not be too quick to avoid sadness.
It’s part of being a whole person.
If you’re sad about something, anything … your plant died, you miss an old friend, you miss your old body, your favorite TV show you’re serial watching is over … shoot man!
That’s flipping sad!
Sometimes sadness is painful. No doubt about it:(
And sometimes it isn’t.
Ignoring it or being unaware of it can build up inside.
Being available for whatever range of emotion is within you is part of being emotionally AWARE.
Are you making time for feelings that come up?
Please don’t use positive thinking to repress emotion.
That’s the road to future pain and heartache and body pain and your body breaking down.
The body and mind are intimately connected.
So if you’re feeling sad … it’s ok. Please make room for it.
Let it be.
Let it be.
Being human involves many emotions and when we make room for both, the body, mind and spirit thank us.
I have a team I like to call Team Jeanne.
You have a team like this too. Your team is called: Team YOUR NAME.
My team consists of anyone and everyone who supports me on my path.
Both here AND … not here. You get the picture.
Your team reminds you of your place in a much larger context.
I love thinking about Team Jeanne because it reminds me of the vast
resources at my disposal.
If you may find this a bit … self-involved? Let me assure you, it’s the opposite.
It is surrendering to my place in a much larger context.
And reminding myself that I’m not alone.
It reminds me that I am loved.
It reminds me that the support I need to fulfill my potential is right in front of my face!
Right in front of my face!
I am so happy to know this Team exists. Thank you is all I can say.
I invite you to BUILD your team. They are right in front of YOUR face waiting to be called in!
They are ready with a good idea, a helping hand, a good hug, a loving word, a warm feeling, a great memory … you name it.
The support, the resources, the ideas at the exact right moment, it’s ALL right here.
Our job is to notice it.
And receive it. Receive it. Receive it … with gratitude.
And here’s the best part:
Your team loves you … even if some members wouldn’t necessarily use those words:)
Not all of us go around saying I love you all the time:)
Your team are people who help you: love yourself, respect yourself, have compassion for yourself, and forgive yourself.
Anyone else, kick them off the team!!
Send them to right field, no better yet, send them to the dugout! Good-bye!
We all have a team, thank goodness. My humble suggestion is this:
Invite them into your daily life.
All of the help you need is right here.
Yet another piece of proof … you are worth it.