You hear about tuning in to your children, your partner, or your surroundings …
And we know that means to lean into what they’re feeling…
Or what is happening.
But, what does it mean to tune in to yourself?
It means to drop into what your soul needs.
Now… how is this any different than what YOU need?
A soul need is a deeper need. It’s a bottom line need.
Since the soul is the essence of who you are, it’s slightly different than who YOU are.
Because YOU have a body and circumstances, both of which are temporary.
While the soul is eternal and connected.
So to illustrate with a very light example…
If you’re craving chocolate cake… is this something your soul wants?
Or maybe your soul wants deeper nourishment?
If chocolate cake will give you true nourishment, awesome:)
However, tune in to your soul and see… is this nourishing me?
It might be. It might not be…
It’s between you and your soul to decide.
How lovely a convo is that?
Your soul knows.
No judgment, just leaning in and having a conversation with the deepest, purest, most present part of you.
So, how do you care for your soul… in a topsy-turvey world?
And what does that even mean??
Care of the soul assumes that life is topsy-turvey.
So, don’t let it disappoint you or cause you to become too discouraged.
Because as you know, life is a roller coaster of things we don’t expect.
And so instead, we care for the soul.
We make sure our soul is doin’ alright down here…
We pause throughout the day. We take deep breaths. We do work that feeds the soul. We avoid negative people and negative thinking. We put ourselves in situations that lift us up. We feel what we feel. We BELIEVE in ourselves. We believe in an unlimited universe that will survive. We don’t give up on ourselves. We’re GOOD to ourselves daily…
I feel better just writing that:)
And as you care for yourself in this deeper, life affirming way, you’re experiencing connection and aliveness.
You experience the part of life that can’t be explained…
It wasn’t until I stumbled upon caring for my soul… that a glimmer of something true, something deeper, and something eternally satisfying emerged within me.
Why does the soul offer so much?
Because this part of you knows the truth about you and your specific place in the world.
AND because… this part of you is connected to the unlimited.
And, this part of you has the power to overcome any self-doubt you have.
You can lean into your soul 100%.
And THAT feels really good, since leaning into something solid in 2020… is extremely comforting. ?
Be well and safe.
Care of the soul includes doing things that help you feel calm throughout the day, even when the world around you is chaotic.
When you’re caring for your deeper needs, YOU are the calm one that others gravitate toward.
Like your husband and children…
And why will they do this?
Because they feel SAFE with you.
They know you’re there for them, calm and patient when the rest of life is… too much.
The world and its problems don’t unravel you.
Just like you’re OK with you own imperfections.
And this calm and patience comes from this DEEP well within you.
Kids love being around that. Men love being around that.
We love being around that … And yet, while I was a loving wife and mother …
I used to be stressed out, anxious, and easily upset.
This was NOT a good look on me.
On my tombstone my sons might have written: We loved her, but wish she would have taken a deep breath and a very long vacation.
Thankfully, I breathe easily now.
And here’s the good news …
As we care for our deeper needs and connect within, we forgive the things we’ve said and done … and we have more to give.
Christiane Northrup, M.D. is helping us understand how we can evade energy vampires.
I’m grateful because this topic comes up A LOT in my work as a soul coach. The power of thought and how negative thinking is literally killing people is the main theme in my futuristic book, The Thought Store.
Have you ever walked away from someone feeling blah or angry or anxious, and wondering what the heck happened?
And then you’re wondering how you got sucked in?
Because, the subject people seem to be bothered by, more than any other subject, is other people.
We can’t live with them, can’t live without them!
Can’t live with them … can’t live without them! ?
Other people is the number one reason people leave their jobs.
And sometimes, only sometimes … those “other people” are energy vampires.
Christiane Northrup’s best selling book: Dodging Energy Vampires: An Empath’s Guide to Evading Relationships that Drain You and Restoring Your Health and Power,
talks about this issue in depth.
And hey … we’ve all had bad days or months. Quite honestly, when my husband passed away, I wasn’t fun to be around for years.
It was tough, and I had to nurse my wounds for a long time.
But, do you have someone you’ve known forever and you feel drained by the relationship?
Or maybe you’ve known them for a short time, and you didn’t realize they were slowly draining the life out of you?
If you want a harmonious and fun life, this includes NOT allowing yourself to be drained by other people, even if you feel badly for them.
Thoughts to empower you.
You can affirm:
I love you, I forgive you, I’m letting you go.
I deserve peace.
I am only allowing peaceful relationships in my life.
I allow myself to protect my energy.
When I feel drained, I will take a look at what’s happening.
I am committed to being around good energy.
I am attracted loving, responsible, caring, empowered people into my life.
I am letting you go.