How To Attract Love: Make The Universe Your Matchmaker!
Do you want to attract love into your life… or make your existing relationship feel closer?
Finding a partner who truly resonates with your energy, values, passion and mindset can feel like searching for a needle in a haystack.
As a soul coach, the author of The thought Store about the power of thoughts, and someone who lives close to her spirit guides, I’ve found that ultimately, the universe is your matchmaker.
You’re here because you’re ready for a love that fits you energetically and feels aligned with your soul.
In this article, I’ll address how to attract love and share the 5 key things to will make the relationship vibing where you are.
Why is the universe your matchmaker?
A while ago, I was listening to Rob Lowe’s podcast, Literally and his guest was medium Rebecca Rosen. She commented that when she first published her book, Spirited, she said to the universe something like: Let the universe be my publisher. (There’s much more to her story.) She had such faith that the book was on her soul’s path and that the universe would guide her and the book. And of course, it did.
After hearing her say that line I thought… this also applies to attracting love relationships. Your main soulmate relationships are pre-arranged before you come into this life! (To read more about this selection process read, Journey of Souls by Michael Newton Ph. D.)
So basically, the universe is your matchmaker.
You and your spirit team select who your main partners will be based on the current trajectory or your soul’s path or if there’s a higher timeline, who those people can be. Clearly, your free will determines a lot of what happens.
People are under the very misguided idea that your next relationship is determined by who you’re attracting on the apps or in the market. Wrong! If you’re meant to meet someone, they will be placed on your path.
Your job is to work on yourself: raise your vibration, stay open to the possibilities, stop limited thinking, and basically…evolve your soul. Yea, it’s more involved than that… but in a nutshell, that’s your job!
The universe’s job is to figure out the how and when. How you will meet them. When you will meet them. Because you have free will, the universe is always working with where YOU are at.
For a complete guide to Positive Energy including science and meaning of good vibes, attracting positive energy, send healing vibes, positive thinking, optimism, affirmations, read: Positive Energy: A Complete Guide to Creating Good Vibes.
What is a loving relationship like?
Obviously, a loving relationship can be platonic or romantic. For the purposes of this blog post, I’m referring to relationships of a romantic nature.
A loving relationship will feel supportive of both partners and will align with each soul’s purpose. It will be a relationship where you are operating at a higher vibration of self-love, power, clarity and alignment.
Power, clarity and alignment… underline those 3 words in your mind!
Here are 4 elements that are important for a healthy loving relationship. After this I’ll list how to attract a healthy relationship… and let the universe be your matchmaker.
If you think you may have a soul tie relationship, here are signs you may have a soul tie.
Self-love
Self-love is essential for a love relationship. When you truly love and accept yourself, you radiate positive energy that attracts “like-vibed partners” (I just made that up… but it’s true!)
Self-love allows you to set healthy boundaries, communicate your needs effectively, and approach the relationship from a place of wholeness rather than lack. Self-love enables you to offer genuine love to your partner without seeking validation or completion from them.
Power
In a high-vibe relationship, power isn’t about control but about personal empowerment. It’s the ability to stand in your truth, make conscious choices, and take responsibility for your life and happiness.
Embracing your power allows you to contribute to the relationship as an equal, creating mutual respect and admiration. It prevents codependency and enables both partners to support each other’s growth while maintaining individual awesomeness.
One of my favorite books, and I highly recommend it, is Power Vs. Force by David Hawkins Ph.D. For your own personal growth, it’s a fantastic reference for what true power is.
Clarity
Clarity is essential for navigating a high-vibe relationship with intention. It involves having a clear understanding of your values, desires, and boundaries.
With clarity, you can communicate effectively, make decisions aligned with your highest good, and recognize whether a potential partner resonates with your energy.
Clarity helps you stay true to your path.
Alignment
Alignment in a high-vibe relationship means that both of your energies, values, and goals are in harmony. It’s about moving in the same direction while supporting each other’s individual journeys.
When you’re aligned, you create a powerful synergy that elevates both partners.
Alignment doesn’t mean being identical; rather, it’s about complementing each other’s strengths and growing together in a way that feels authentic and fulfilling.
To help you manifest a high-vibe relationship focus on What you want and Why you want it. Then, let the universe take care of How it’ll happen and When it’ll happen. I talk about that in this YouTube Short…
3 Ways to attract love
A high-vibe approach to relationships recognizes that we are all energy beings, constantly sending and receiving vibrational frequencies. Renowned spiritual medium Rebecca Rosen says, “We’re all energy vibrating at different speeds.”
A high-vibe relationship is a healthy relationship because you’re both operating at a higher vibration.
In a high-vibe life you’re aware of your energy and the energy around you and you’re doing the inner work for your highest good and greatest healing.
1. First, raise your vibration!
The foundation of attracting love lies within the relationship between you and this universe.
Since the universe is energy – including your body, thoughts, and feelings, you’ll attract a vibration similar to yours. To attract a partner vibrating at a higher frequency, you must first raise your own vibrational energy.
My article, How To Raise Your Vibration: 9 Ways is a great place to start as it will help you raise your energy frequency… fast.
You’ll want to start by practicing self-awareness and emotional well-being by paying attention to your thoughts and emotions.
Embrace the concept of high-vibe thinking, a term I coined when I wrote my book, The Thought Store, about the energy within thoughts. High-vibe thinking supports you emotionally, mentally, and spiritually without falling into toxic positivity.
Cultivate habits that elevate your energy for how to attract a healthy relationship:
- High-vibe thinking
- Soul-care and self-care
- Engaging in activities that bring you joy and fulfillment
- Surrounding yourself with uplifting people and environments
By consistently raising your own vibration, you’ll naturally attract individuals who resonate at similar frequencies, increasing your chances of connecting with a loving soulmate.
As bizarre as all of this sounds, it’s the way the universe works.
2. Embracing the full spectrum of emotions
In high-vibration healthy relationships, this means acknowledging and allowing all emotions, from joy to fear, without judgment.
By allowing ourselves to experience the full range of our emotions, we create space for deeper, more genuine soul connections and we attract that.
Openness and emotional safety attracts openness and emotional safety. It’s a way of being in the world that says: I am being honest with how I feel and you can do the same.
Of course, along with that goes a genuine desire to feel and heal, not to just vent with no intention of moving on… ever.
Here are over 30 emotional release methods I recommend to help you increase your emotional wellness and intelligence.
3. Surround yourself with uplifting influences
The people and situations you expose yourself to significantly impact your energy.
Seek out environments and individuals that inspire and energize you.
Don’t stay in your comfort zone with people who are in your old energy… move into new, higher energy that will help you attract more of the same.
This might mean joining groups aligned with your interests or spending time in nature to recharge your spiritual batteries.
Energize your relationship!
Couples therapy is energizing because it’s time devoted to one another and the relationship. In the past, a limitation for some has been cost and finding a good therapist who can see you on your schedule! There are now popular online options available.
Our Ritual is an online couples therapy platform that has helped thousands of people improve communication and clarity within the relationship. Therapy has been an important part of my personal growth and having an online option like this one makes is a lot more accessible and affordable.
The qualities of a loving relationship
By aligning yourself with higher frequencies of love, healing, and courage, you open the door to a connection that resonates with your truest self.
Here are five key elements for how to attract a healthy relationship:
You vibe with one another
When you meet someone who’s high-vibe, if you’re high-vibe as well… you’ll feel a natural resonance. They feel like a kindred spirit. The connection feels easy and natural.
Signs you’re vibing with someone:
- Conversations flow easily and time seems to fly
- You feel energized and uplifted in their presence
- There’s a sense of mutual understanding and respect
- You share similar values and life philosophies
Remember, vibing doesn’t mean you’ll agree on everything. It’s about feeling a fundamental compatibility in your energies and approaches to life. This alignment creates a strong foundation for a healthy relationship.
Related article: What Are Soul Ties?
You share a feeling of interconnectedness
A key aspect of high-vibe living is recognizing ourinterconnectedness with the world around us. In a high-vibe healthy relationship, both partners share a desire to contribute positively to their environment and community.
Whether in large ways, or small, you have a similar drive to make a difference. Whether you want to lead the masses and your prospective partner wants to serve by writing a book or volunteering, you both have a sense that you must DO something.
This shared value can manifest in various ways:
- Engaging in volunteer work or community service
- Supporting ethical and sustainable businesses
- Practicing kindness and compassion in daily interactions
- Pursuing careers or hobbies that align with your values and make a positive impact
This shared commitment to positive change, however that looks for each of you, keeps your connection vibrating at a high frequency of compassion.
Neither of you are interested in low-vibe situations and mindsets
How to attract a healthy relationship that’s high-vibe? Both partners actively choose to focus on thoughts and situations that elevate their energy. This doesn’t mean ignoring life’s challenges or avoiding negative emotions, (which can be spiritual bypassing). Instead, it’s about approaching all experiences with a growth mindset and a commitment to maintaining a higher frequency.
Characteristics of high-vibe thinking in healthy relationships…
- Focusing on solutions rather than dwelling on problems
- Practicing gratitude and appreciation regularly
- Encouraging each other’s personal growth and dreams
- Choosing to see challenges as opportunities for learning and evolution
By consciously avoiding low-vibe situations and cultivating high-vibration thoughts together, you create a relationship environment that supports your highest good and greatest healing.
You both think high-vibration
You’re more disciplined in your thinking, or it comes naturally to you to think in ways that empower you and others. You don’t focus on negativity and you use emotional release tools to face emotion instead of analyze them.
It’s about adopting thought patterns that support your emotional, mental, and spiritual well-being. In the context of romantic relationships, this means reframing negative self-talk and cultivating thoughts that align with your desire for a fulfilling partnership.
They aren’t a rescuer and neither are you
A high-vibe healthy relationship is built on mutual empowerment, not codependency. Both partners take responsibility for their own growth, healing, and happiness, while supporting each other’s journey.
Rescuers expend a lot of energy of trying to fix other people’s lives instead of focusing on their own healing and growth.
Signs of a healthy, non-victim/rescuer dynamic…
- Encouraging independence and personal development
- Offering support without trying to fix each other or others
- Respecting each other’s boundaries and autonomy
- Celebrating individual achievements and growth
By avoiding rescuers, you create space for a balanced, empowering partnership where you both focus on your own growth.
Final thoughts
How to attract love is about more than finding someone who makes you happy in the moment.
It’s about connecting with a partner who aligns with your values, supports your growth, and resonates with your positive energy and good vibes, and avoiding repeating old negative relationship patterns.
As you seek this kind of transformative partnership, remember that the journey begins with you. By raising your own vibration, embracing authenticity, and committing to personal growth, you naturally attract individuals who match your high-vibe energy.
