How To Practice Self Forgiveness… Loving Yourself Is The Way

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If you’ve ever felt weighed down by the burden of past mistakes, you’re not alone.

Carrying the weight of self-rejection is very difficult and takes its toll.

When you forgive yourself for past mistakes, it’s both liberating and transformative, no doubt about it!

As a soul coach, I’m very passionate about self-love. The soul needs us to grow self-love… and self-forgiveness is part of the self-love journey.

You’re here seeking a path to self-forgiveness, longing to break free from regret and shame.

This article on how to practice true self forgiveness will give you tools to practice self-forgiveness, so you can heal your life.

How To Practice self forgiveness

True self forgiveness is a process.

To help you practice self forgiveness, listen to the audio below to help you model how self-forgiving thoughts will sound in your head.

Listen to the two-minute audio below on self forgiveness each day to develop self compassion and work through negative feelings like shame and guilt.

Forgive yourself for past mistakes so that you can live fully.

Negative emotions are part of being human. Please don’t be ashamed to be having them.

Furthermore, self-forgiveness in general is part of the healing process for both your body and mind.

Self forgiveness affirmations

Here is the script of the self-forgiveness affirmations I state in the audio above to help you turn down the volume of your inner critic.

I forgive myself for these words, actions, all of it.

If I could have done better, I would have.

As I forgive myself, I open myself to more love, to giving more to others from a place of empathy and humbleness, because I know what it means to feel hurt.

I’m letting go of the self-judgment and self-rejection. I am healing my heart, so I have more to give.

I forgive myself.

I forgive myself for hurting myself, for holding on to pain because I wasn’t ready to let go.

I forgive myself for the many ways that I have judged myself and rejected myself and hurt myself.

I forgive myself for not living authentically until now.

I forgive myself.

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Health benefits

Self-forgiveness enhances mental and physical health.

Many years ago, when my husband was facing a health crisis, we found Carolyn Myss and her work on forgiveness and healing is ground-breaking.

I highly recommend checking her out if you or someone you love is dealing with a health issue.

Caroline Myss is a five-time New York Times bestselling author and internationally renowned speaker in the fields of human consciousness, spirituality and mysticism, health, energy medicine, and the science of medical intuition.”

Carolyn Myss tells us, “Forgiveness is a mystical, not a logical, command. It makes no sense to the reasoning mind, because the reasoning mind is incapable of forgiveness. Genuine forgiveness is a self-initiated mystical act that requires the assistance of grace to release you from the compulsive and often self-righteous chatter of the ego, which continually enforces a position of entitled anger or hurt.”

Forgiveness Prayer

Saying prayers, mantras, and affirmations is a regular part of a soulful life.

Here’s a forgivenness prayer from Lisa Barnett to help you:

Divine, Spirit, Source, please move me into a state of forgiveness towards anyone or anything that has hurt me, consciously or unconsciously, from the beginning of time to this present moment. I now forgive them and I release the energy of the past. 

Divine, Spirit, Source, please move me into a state of forgiveness towards myself for any hurt that I have caused others, consciously or unconsciously, from the beginning of time to this present moment. I now forgive myself and I release the energy of the past. 

Divine, Spirit, Source, please move me into a state of forgiveness towards myself for any hurt that I have caused myself, consciously or unconsciously, from the beginning of time to this present moment. I now forgive myself and release the energy of the past.

I invoke the Grace and power of Forgiveness to transform my body, mind, and heart as I return to a state of Divine Innocence.  And so it is.

A note on soulfulness

The soul needs us to forgive ourselves, even though it’s not easy.

The soul is here to learn and grow… So, it’s essential to practice self love along this path.

Here are 200 self-love affirmations to supplement the self forgiveness affirmations.

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Forgive yourself to help YOU, not them

In regard to forgiving others, (and we can use the same logic to forgive ourselves.)

Marianne Williamson’s forgiveness quote, “Unforgiveness is like drinking poison yourself and waiting for the other person to die.”

When I first heard this quote it made complete sense.

For me, having to forgive someone who has done something unspeakable, and undeniably despicable… well, how do we possibly do that?

I wonder about this for anyone struggling to forgive themselves or someone else.

However, in the spirit of self-love and self-healing, I felt it would be self-loving to me… to work on forgiveness, in my own divine time and order.

Anger is a poison

As I began to see my anger as a poison that I was holding onto, and knowing that carrying negative emotion is unhealthy, my perspective on forgiveness shifted.

None-the-less, forgiveness of yourself or others is so deeply personal, that only you can decide when and if you’re ready to forgive.

Give yourself plenty of grace. If you experience guilt and shame, it takes some time to work through it.

Whether it’s guilt and shame, regret, feelings of not being enough, accepting your past, acknowledging mistakes, and forgiving others, it involves a process of emotional release.

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Self compassion

We need self-compassion for well-being and mental health… and learning to forgive yourself.

Self compassion doesn’t mean that we don’t accept responsibility for things we’ve done that we regret. But, it is about treating yourself with kindness and a generous heart.

While you also accept responsibility for what’s been done.

Self compassion is a key ingredient in self-love. As we love ourselves, we feel greater compassion for ourselves and others.

It’s also an important part of healing our world.

As we have compassion for other people, we’re more tolerant of how different we are from them. This is critical for healing the planet.

Self care and forgiveness

As you forgive yourself for something, you’re more likely to take better care of yourself.

The idea is that we build self-worth as we forgive past mistakes.

Here are self-care ideas to help you along your self forgiveness journey.

As you prioritize self-care it leads to mental health and physical health benefits because feelings like shame, guilt, and regret disrupt the body.

Seeking help with a mental health professional

As Carolyn Myss cautions us, self forgiveness is so important to our healing process that if you’re finding that you cannot forgive yourself, then seek the help of a mental health professional.

There’s no shame in asking for help.

And if you don’t have the resources to see someone, there are mental health apps available now that are popular.

Forbes magazine offers guidance on prescription digital therapeutics (PDTs) that are emerging as an alternative to help the growing number of people with anxiety, depression, and a host of other challenges many people face.

According to Forbes, “Unlike wellness apps that promote healthy lifestyle habits, prescription digital therapeutics (PDTs) are prescribed by a doctor to prevent, manage, or treat a medical condition—all through a smartphone, tablet, or computer.”

Final thoughts

When we forgive ourselves for not being perfect, for being flawed, for being weak, for making mistakes, we heal the heart and open ourselves to more love.

The audio above will hopefully help you be less self critical and to know that you’re not a bad person!

Negative thoughts lead to negative emotions, so it’s part of overall wellbeing to change the habit of negative thinking. Here are positive thinking exercises to help you.

And my top 3 positive thinking skills to help you narrow in on where to get started with better thinking.

Be aware of your inner critic and choose positive self-talk to help you practice self love.

We all make mistakes and as we forgive ourselves, we do better in life.

Here’s a post with 88 Positive affirmations for women… to help you. Of course, these affirmations are helpful to men as well:)

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