How To Stay True To Yourself: Don’t Dumb Yourself Down
So, you’ve found your true self, but how do you stay true to yourself?
Because life give us many reasons to dumb ourselves down and hide.
And, it feels horrible to do so.
The first step of finding yourself is hard enough!
But, step two is continuing to be the real you after life tests you!
We can be rejected by others, misunderstood and not seen, have an opinion that’s controversial, choose a religion others don’t understand, etc.
Stay true to yourself
It’s the things we do each day, the rituals and routines that help us anchor new ways of being.
As you accept and love yourself, it’ll help you stay true.
Here are 6 things to help you stay your true self all the time.
1. Regular spiritual or personal beliefs routine
A regular spiritual routine anchors you in the deeper aspects of life, like who are you!!
What are your beliefs? Do you believe that you have one life or that you continue to return to a physical body for many lives?
What religious or spiritual beliefs do you have? What parts of those challenge you?
How do you practice your spiritual beliefs to have a meaningful life?
Our sense of spirit is important since life is wrought with pain and challenges.
Your own happiness comes from being deeply connected to yourself, your soul, and something bigger than you, so you don’t feel alone in life.
2. Being real with yourself
Self-reflect and when you do… Be real with yourself.
Self reflection is positive for a happy life. My only warning here is that too much self reflection can have the opposite effect.
Overthinking can be a real problem.
Instead, make time for problem solving and setting goals. Be sure that in situations where you’re upset or lack of confidence that you reflect on what’s going on.
Self-discovery is an essential part of life and it’s good to make it an ongoing part of your life.
3. Show up for your authentic self
Here’s a deeper dive on how to show up for your authentic self.
The main bullet points are, 1. Let your soul or inner voice be your guide, 2. Do your life your way, 3. Don’t ignore your true self, 4. Practice self-compassion always, and 5. It’s OK to have an authenticity crisis.
Sometimes an authenticity crisis can be the catalyst for you going deeper and uncovering your true self.
As you have a closer relationship with yourself, you’ll feel more confident.
4. Be a soulful person
Being soulful is about living with depth, truth, and purpose… with the needs of the soul at the center of life.
It’s easier to stay true when you’re a soulful person, because your commitment to soulfulness is important to you.
The soul is a topic that’s a passion of mine and you can read more about the meaning of the soul if it interests you.
5. Build self esteem and happiness
As you build self esteem, you’ll remain true to yourself.
And often, people with higher self respect and self esteem tend to be happier.
So, support yourself with high vibration affirmations, journaling, and surrounding yourself with good people.
Unless you’re some kind of personal power guru who constantly tells yourself really positive things about you, your beliefs about yourself will be challenged.
To live your life where you act from your values, it’s important to keep reminding yourself what matters to you.
6. Continue on the self love path
Being able to love yourself is an essential part of your own happiness, a fulfilling life, and reaching your destiny.
This includes self respect, self compassion, and practicing forgiveness of yourself. In my work as a life coach, I’ve found that self love is challenging for a lot of us.
It’s a journey, and can be a challenge, so here are self love exercises to help you.
Also, here are over 200 affirmations that will you love yourself each day.
Affirmations help you reprogram the brain from self-rejection and criticism to a kinder tone.
HIGH-VIBRATION CONTENT TO HELP YOU STAY TRUE
Garbage in, garbage out!
To continue being your true self, read, watch and listen to material that reflects your core values, personal growth, and challenges you to live authentically.
So, choose to subject to yourself to high-quality, high-vibration content that supports you in life and contributes to mental health.
Here are examples of content that keeps your vibes high…
Self help books
Inspirational books
Positive thinking books
Religious texts that resonate with you
Responsible News Sources
There are dozens of ways to be well informed without watching overly biased news that FEEDS on your fear and is excessively repetitive.
Avoid news that’s irresponsible and is biased in a way that is intolerant of certain ethnic groups.
This is not about putting your head in the sand!
Forbes magazine offers 10 Journalism Brands Where you Find Real Facts.
Listed are: The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, The Washington Post, BBC, The Economist, The New Yorker, Wire Services like: Associated Press, Reuters, Bloomberg News, Foreign Affairs, and The Atlantic.
Tell family members how you feel
Be your authentic self with family members because it feels horrible to have the people you’re related to not know who you are!
If you don’t feel safe in sharing yourself honestly with them, then don’t do it.
Part of being your true self is respecting what you need. First and foremost, you’re a person who needs safety. So, take this into consideration.
If you’re a people pleaser, so you hide yourself to please others, psychecentral.com offers suggestions on how to stop people pleasing.
Be your true self
Being your true self is the focus of my work as a life coach and entrepreneur for over 25 years.
Your mental health, self respect, and true happiness depend on your ability to be true to yourself.
Your true self is the place of truth and clarity within you. Being our true selves is when our words and actions match up with our core beliefs and deepest truths.
I teach women and men how to find themselves, especially after a loss of any kind and I offer four steps. For a deep dive read How to Find Yourself Again: 4 Soulful Steps.
The four steps are: 1. Commit to yourself, 2. Discover yourself, 3. Tools to love yourself, and 4. Be who you’re meant to be.
In addition I teach an online course called Metamorphosis to help people go from self doubt and fear to being their true self and fulfilling their destiny.
Final thoughts
True to yourself means that your choices, words, and actions align with your values and beliefs.
Finding your true self is a huge accomplishment in and of itself and is the first step.
However, staying true to yourself as life changes, your feelings are hurt, your truth is challenged, and your friends don’t get it…. that’s when we have to dig in deeper to stay true.
