How To Trust Yourself: With Easy To Understand Examples

Do you wonder… Do I trust myself?

In our sometimes frantic world, self-trust often feels elusive. We chase approval from others, while forgetting to seek approval from ourselves.

As a life coach for over 25 years, I’ve found that having trust in yourself is a big part of your happiness. If you don’t trust yourself, you question every decision. That’s not an easy way to live.

You’re here because you want a better relationship with yourself… with more self-trust.

Let’s take a close look at how to trust yourself more going forward.

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Now, let’s jump into how you can trust yourself more!

1. Develop a more positive self-concept 

Self-trust usually means that you have a positive self-image. You accept yourself, the good, the bad, and the ugly. 

When you love and accept yourself for who you are, your true self, you’re more likely to feel greater peace with yourself, which can lead to greater trust of yourself.

To develop a positive self-concept, there’s the inner work of finding yourself that grows trust in yourself. Your physical and mental health improves as you grow self compassion and trust in your inner voice.

2. Be your authentic self

When you love yourself, you’re more committed to living your truth, living authentically… and this builds self-trust.

The self love journey means that you’re showing up authentically in all areas of your life.

As you commit to being authentic, you’re more likely to be happy because you’re doing what you enjoy and you give yourself enough space to care for your needs.

3. Grow resilience 

When you have strong self-worth and feel deep compassion for yourself, you’re better equipped to deal with life’s inevitable challenges and setbacks. This grows self-trust.

As you see that you can handle what life throws your way, it can lead to increased emotional well-being and greater trust in yourself.

4. Build healthier relationships

As you have healthier relationships, with people who trust themselves, you’re more likely to trust yourself. You’ll attract soulmate connections.

Positive people with good vibes are more likely to bring out the best in you and increase your overall trust in yourself.

5. Stop self-criticism

Positive self talk is a must to build self trust.

That rhymes… so you know it’s true.

When you have less self-criticism and negative self-talk, you feel better about yourself. 

In What You Say When You Talk To Yourself by Shad Helmstetter, Ph.D. he writes, “The brain simply believes what you tell it most. And what you tell it about you, it will create. It has no choice.”

As you’re kinder and more forgiving about your mistakes, you’re less likely to engage in unhealthy behaviors that can lead to unhappiness.

6. Don’t let outside factors get in the way of you trusting yourself

Self doubt often comes from letting the outside world tell you who you are.

My book The Butterfly Silhouette teaches 12 Principles of Metamorphosis so that you will let your internal compass be what you truly need, not what others tell you that you need.

Life satisfaction

According to the American Psychological Association, life satisfaction “is the extent to which a person finds life rich, meaningful, full, or of high quality.”

This practically defines soulfulness! 

As you grow in self-love, you’re more likely to find happiness. Here are 7 ways that Self-love contributes to happiness. 

Mental health considerations

Mental health is an expansive and complicated topic, but mental health can be served by taking care of your deeper needs for love, security, and connection.

There’s no magic pill for finding happiness.

However, a regular spiritual practice keeps you grounded and focused on your connection to a large universe that has your highest good and greatest healing in mind. 

This kind of connection with the world can 100% increase happiness levels.

Trust yourself… additional strategies

Here are some additional strategies you can use to increase trust in yourself.. 

Pay attention to your emotions

We are emotional beings. 

And even though some emotions sting and make us feel horrible, the only way past is through. 

So, build your tolerance for being about to feel your emotions fully and release them. 

Emotions are the body’s way of telling us to take care of our energy. 

If you’re sad, take time to be alone, quiet, and soothe yourself. Or, be with people you trust and talk with them about it. (If they feel safe to you.)

If you’re angry, express it in constructive ways like journaling for self-love, writing a letter that you’ll shred, punching a bag, speaking your truth, etc. 

And, when you’re afraid… try asking yourself: What am I afraid of? 

Then ask: Is this situation I’m afraid of likely to happen… or not? 

Is the thing you dread, fear, and worry about something you can take action on? 

Facing your fears in this way can help calm you and mobilize you into action. 

Sometimes fear is helpful in getting you DO something.  Other times fear is an energy drain that’s not serving you. 

Practice an attitude of gratitude

As I’ve written in my post, How to Create an Attitude of Gratitude for a Better Life, practicing gratitude will help you enjoy life.

An attitude of gratitude is spending time thinking about all of the people, situations, circumstances, etc. that you’re thankful for.

I suggest a gratitude journal to remind you of all the things that you’re grateful for in your life.

Furthermore, gratitude can shift negative emotions like fear. And fears younger cousins: anxiety, worry, and nervousness!

Emotions are energy and gratitude is higher vibration than fear.

Get inspired!

Put inspirational material often.  Read books that boost and empower you and help you feel positive emotions.

Do things that help you vibe with others. We enjoy people we’re vibrationally attuned with.

Spending time reading content that boosts self esteem and creates lower stress is very helpful!

Like this article for example!

Embrace self-care

Prioritize self-care activities that promote physical, mental, and emotional well-being.

This includes getting plenty of rest, enough sleep, eating healthy, exercising, and managing stress.

Self care needs to be one of your habits, not just a week a year! And, I cannot emphasize enough the importance of getting enough sleep.

Remember, you can’t help those you love from an empty cup! In my experience, happier people have regular self-care routines.

NOTE: If you’re struggling with persistent negative thinking and your self esteem is low, consider speaking with a therapist or counselor. I’m a big fan of therapy. Professionals can provide additional guidance for your mental health.

Spend time with family and friends

Your relationships with friends and family play a significant role in your happiness.

Spend time with people who support you and bring out your best. Relationships can lift your mood and increase your sense of belonging.

Don’t spend money on things you don’t need

Spending money to fill a void within you will cause more unhappiness. More money will not automatically make you happy!

Nothing will drain your happiness more than not having enough money. Note I’m saying “enough money”.  This doesn’t mean a lot of money… but enough to pay your bills and have extra to care your yourself and your responsibilities.  

Site an authority about stress over money… Blank says, that money stress is a zap to happiness more than about any other stressor. 

So the advice here is to not spend money you don’t have on things you don’t need. 

Spending too much money can be a clue that you’re distracting from something important. So take a closer look at why you might be doing so.

Buying a lot of material things to fill an inner void will not create a happy life!

Final thoughts

Trusting yourself is an important aspect of self-love and part of fulfilling your soul’s purpose.

Focus on the good, on growing self love, and doing things that grow self-love.

Plus, add healthy habits and a daily routine that foster self-compassion.