Lately, I’ve been thinking of all the mothers who have younger children at home during Covid.
Younger through teens years anyway.
And … YOU ROCK! Seriously, you mom’s rock.
I used to hyperventilate over how to occupy my kids for a measly summer … and this is a very long summer.
So, sending you our admiration and respect!
This pandemic has affected ALL 7.8 billion of us … and in different ways.
It’s certainly a challenging time.
It is what it is.
For me, someone who REALLY DOESN’T like feeling stuck, I am looking at my life as creatively as I can.
So, I remind myself: It is what it is.
And this helps a bit.
Isn’t it funny how a trite phrase can soothe my mind?
Why does this five word sentence feel good?
Because in that moment, I am not resisting what is happening.
This is not throwing in the towel. For me, it’s kind of the serenity prayer:
Help me change what I can, accept what I can’t …
And then I notice … how MANY people are really kind right now.
The kindness of people
The kindness of people has reached a very high level.
I hear all around me:
Be safe. Be careful. Thinking of you. Thank you for being here. Thank you for your service. Are you OK?
And that’s cool.
Therefore, while I am not diggin’ this at all, I accept it week by week and keep my thoughts positive for the future.
So our young people aren’t inundated with pessimism.
Because pessimism is like air pollution.
So, when the ATT agent accidentally disconnects our call for the 7th time, since they’re working from home and have questionable phone service …
I think: It is what it is.
And I call again 3 days later after I’ve calmed down. (Even though I’ve lost 7 hours from my life.)
Thoughts to clean the air
At a minimum, I can avoid polluting the air around ME. Some thoughts that help:
We are not alone in this.
I am grateful for this, this and this.
Oh, and I’m grateful for BLANK. (I know we’ve had this idea drilled into our heads, But truly … Gratitude instantly raises our energy.)
This is temporary.
I will not jump ahead in my thoughts.
I’m doing the best I can today.
Sending a very big hello to you and hoping you’re safe and doing ok …
I believe life is in the daily rituals. The saying is actually, Life is in the details … but I like the word rituals.
It’s the rituals we do each day … that add up to our life.
Ritual – an act regularly repeated in a precise manner.
What do I love about rituals?
They connect me to my spirit and something bigger.
And that feels amazing.
The rituals I’m talking about …
- Daily prayers, mantras, affirmations.
- Checking in with myself emotionally.
- Letting go … repeatedly.
- Other rituals I LOVE.
Rituals are something I can COUNT on.
I love things I can count on.
Especially now …
It’s what I did DAILY that literally transformed my life.
Now, they are so much a part of my daily routine that I don’t have to think about them.
My rituals are waiting there like a cozy couch.
A TYPICAL DAY.
Wake up > Say gratitude prayer. > Breathe > High vibe mantras. > Say I love you a few times (a great high vibe thought) > Roll out of bed. > Drink the best coffee ever. > Be quiet. > Affirmations > Eat something with salsa. > Do work I enjoy. > Remind myself I’m OK. > Exercise: 4 sit-ups > Ask myself how I feel. > Release uncomfortable emotion. > Be mindless for awhile. > Do work I enjoy. > Do some work I don’t enjoy, but accept. > Breathe > Eat Biscotti. > Surrender > Gratitude… REPEAT.
Now, do I also think negatively at times, worry a bit, be lazy, and eat food that will never biodegrade in my lifetime? SURE I DO!
However, it’s the 80/20 … or the 90/10 … or the 70/30 I don’t know!
Life is in the rituals
… so, for the sake of enjoying your life, choose rituals that empower you and bring you peace.
When my kids were young, what I list above would have sounded impossible, but honestly, 90% of what’s listed above …. were totally possible!
Find what works for you and gives a nice flow to your day.
And most of all … that remind you of your 24/7 connection to yourself and something bigger than you.
I need something to help me flatten the curve …
Remember being a kid in the backseat of your parents car and your family was driving somewhere and you’d ask: Are we there yet?
You’d ask every ten minutes and your parents would say: Not yet!
Remember that feeling of: Is this drive over yet?
Is this over yet?
THEN, my son who lives in New York, and yes, it’s mayhem there; he sends me a Public Service Announcement from the Office of the Governor of California he saw on Twitter about Flatten the curve …
In it is Julia Louis-Dreyfus
(Seinfeld, Veep, etc.) and she’s putting on her own make-up because her make-up staff is staying home and being safe.
So, she’s putting red lipstick all over her face because she’s never applied her own make-up!
It’s so funny …
Flatten the curve.
I was laughing out loud at how funny she looks applying this clown-like make-up and asking us to please STAY HOME to help flatten the curve.
Yet … I’m getting the message.
I know I need to dig in deep and get my second wind.
Even though I want this thing to be OVER, I must be part of flattening this curve!
Therefore, I am gaining my second wind.
Thank goodness for second winds.
We have this incredible ability to feel tired, pissed off, and DONE, and then wake up the next day and say:
And in case your spirit is a bit frail lately, just know that you too have that second wind within you.
Built into our DNA!
This second wind ability is built into our DNA.
We are made to withstand … life.
Then one day, hopefully sooner than later, we’ll be among one another again.
And we won’t spit in each others faces when we talk.
We will give each other plenty of personal space and respect:)
Oops, I’m getting ahead of myself.
For now … it would be enough to feel a light and breezy second wind.
Wishing that you and your family are safe.
In this interesting time, I find two things happening.
First, sometimes I’m foggy headed, distracted, which way is up … headed.
Where’s my coffee or wine and which Netflix show will I serial watch tonight … is the #1 thing I care about.
And actually, it’s kind of relaxing to expect so little of myself:)
Ahh, self-love … bring it on.
Feeling a bit distracted by this sheer twilight zone world we are living in right now, is par for the course.
But, you knew that:)
However, there’s another feeling that’s really strong and it’s a deep desire to lean into my spirit.
A deep desire to lean into my spirit.
I LOVE leaning in.
What does that mean?
It’s connecting with the part of me that is eternal and connected to something bigger than me.
This greater something doesn’t care if I wear a face mask.
It doesn’t care if I don’t like using the Q word …
It doesn’t even care about the things I worry about.
It’s just still and steady.
It’s there for me.
Connecting with my own spirit.
Connecting with my own spirit is connecting to the strength within me.
While I may feel vulnerable at times … my spirit knows: I am OK … I am safe. I am secure.
My spirit knows this. It has no doubt.
You may have your own ways of connecting with your spirit.
Or maybe you call this feeling something else.
However, if this is sounding a bit too abstract …
And you’d like some concrete tips around this idea of leaning into your spirit, try this mini meditation:
Tree of life meditation
Take a deep breath and let go.
Now picture your head as the branches of a great tree that reaches up about 60 feet.
And picture your body the trunk of a tree: strong and solid.
Then, picture your lower body as the great roots of this great tree, descending into the ground and rooting you, grounding you, so you know you’re solidly connected to firm ground.
Now, with this visual, picture sunlight coming into the branches of the tree and filling up the branches down to the ends of the roots.
Just breathe as you visualize this bright light filling the tree that’s holding you.
In this safe place, know your spirit is there for you.
Stay here as long as you like or as long as you’re comfortable.
And don’t judge yourself if you get bored and want to run to In and Out Burger.
I did that yesterday.
That’s ok too:)
Just stay in your car and thank those adorable teenagers …
Stay safe … and wishing you a lovely evening.
#tree of life meditation
I’m thinking of you all and sending my good thoughts and wishes your way.
I’ve been using this time we have now to reboot, reconnect with myself, and regroup about my future.
While this is a stressful time, it can also be a time for deepening our commitment to whatever we are committed to.
The world has hit the pause button. That’s how I am thinking about it.
For a world that is busy, busy …. hitting pause can create the space for something new to come in.
Or hitting pause can be a time for deeper spirituality.
Or reaching up and out and discovering what your piece is in this universe.
I realize these are huge questions and sometimes we are just making it through the day … but the bigger questions are sitting there, waiting to be asked.
If you feel like it …
What would you have me do with this time?
How can I share the biggest and best part of me?
Now, I don’t always feel like asking these bigger questions.
Sometimes, often lately, I need to just take time out.
However, once those moments pass … then I can refocus on what matters to me.
And I know that moment will always show itself.