Energy Vampires … and why it’s not worth it.

Christiane Northrup, M.D. is helping us understand how we can evade energy vampires.
I’m grateful because this topic comes up A LOT in my work as a soul coach.  The power of thought and how negative thinking is literally killing people is the main theme in my futuristic book, The Thought Store.
Have you ever walked away from someone feeling blah or angry or anxious, and wondering what the heck happened?
And then you’re wondering how you got sucked in?
Because, the subject people seem to be bothered by, more than any other subject, is other people.

We can’t live with them, can’t live without them!

Can’t live with them … can’t live without them! 🙂
Other people is the number one reason people leave their jobs.
And sometimes, only sometimes … those “other people” are energy vampires.
Christiane Northrup’s best selling book:  Dodging Energy Vampires: An Empath’s Guide to Evading Relationships that Drain You and Restoring Your Health and Power, talks about this issue in depth.
And hey … we’ve all had bad days or months.  Quite honestly, when my husband passed away, I wasn’t fun to be around for years.
It was tough, and I had to nurse my wounds for a long time.
But, do you have someone you’ve known forever and you feel drained by the relationship?
Or maybe you’ve known them for a short time, and you didn’t realize they were slowly draining the life out of you?
If you want a harmonious and fun life, this includes NOT allowing yourself to be drained by other people, even if you feel badly for them.

Thoughts to empower you.

You can affirm:

I love you, I forgive you, I’m letting you go.

I deserve peace.

I am only allowing peaceful relationships in my life.

I allow myself to protect my energy.

When I feel drained, I will take a look at what’s happening.

I am committed to being around good energy.

I am attracted loving, responsible, caring, empowered people into my life.

I am letting you go.

 

The kindness of people.

The kindness of people.

Lately, I’ve been thinking of all the mothers who have younger children at home during Covid.
Younger through teens years anyway.
And … YOU ROCK!  Seriously, you mom’s rock.
I used to hyperventilate over how to occupy my kids for a measly summer … and this is a very long summer.
So, sending you our admiration and respect! 
This pandemic has affected ALL 7.8 billion of us … and in different ways.
It’s certainly a challenging time.
It is what it is.
For me, someone who REALLY DOESN’T like feeling stuck, I am looking at my life as creatively as I can.
So, I remind myself:  It is what it is.
And this helps a bit.
Isn’t it funny how a trite phrase can soothe my mind?
Why does this five word sentence feel good?
Because in that moment, I am not resisting what is happening.
This is not throwing in the towel.  For me, it’s kind of the serenity prayer:
Help me change what I can, accept what I can’t …
And then I notice …  how MANY people are really kind right now.
Big time.

The kindness of people

The kindness of people has reached a very high level.
I hear all around me:
Be safe.  Be careful.  Thinking of you.  Thank you for being here.  Thank you for your service.  Are you OK?
And that’s cool.
Therefore, while I am not diggin’ this at all, I accept it week by week and keep my thoughts positive for the future.
So our young people aren’t inundated with pessimism.
Because pessimism is like air pollution.
So, when the ATT agent accidentally disconnects our call for the 7th time, since they’re working from home and have questionable phone service …
I think:  It is what it is.
And I call again 3 days later after I’ve calmed down. (Even though I’ve lost 7 hours from my life.)

Thoughts to clean the air

At a minimum, I can avoid polluting the air around ME.  Some thoughts that help:
We are not alone in this.
I am grateful for this, this and this.
Oh, and I’m grateful for BLANK.  (I know we’ve had this idea drilled into our heads, But truly … Gratitude instantly raises our energy.)
This is temporary.
I will not jump ahead in my thoughts.
I’m doing the best I can today.
Sending a very big hello to you and hoping you’re safe and doing ok …
Life is in the rituals.

Life is in the rituals.

I believe life is in the daily rituals. The saying is actually, Life is in the details … but I like the word rituals.
It’s the rituals we do each day … that add up to our life.
Ritual – an act regularly repeated in a precise manner.
What do I love about rituals?
They connect me to my spirit and something bigger.
And that feels amazing.
The rituals I’m talking about …
DAILY RITUALS
  1. Daily prayers, mantras, affirmations.
  2. Checking in with myself emotionally.
  3. Letting go … repeatedly.
  4. Other rituals I LOVE.
Rituals are something I can COUNT on.
I love things I can count on.
Especially now …
It’s what I did DAILY that literally transformed my life.
Now, they are so much a part of my daily routine that I don’t have to think about them.
My rituals are waiting there like a cozy couch.
A TYPICAL DAY.
Wake up  >  Say gratitude prayer.  >  Breathe  > High vibe mantras.  >   Say I love you a few times (a great high vibe thought)   >  Roll out of bed.  >  Drink the best coffee ever.   >  Be quiet.  >  Affirmations  >  Eat something with salsa.   >   Do work I enjoy.  >  Remind myself I’m OK.  >   Exercise: 4 sit-ups   >   Ask myself how I feel.   >   Release uncomfortable emotion.  >   Be mindless for awhile.   >   Do work I enjoy.   >  Do some work I don’t enjoy, but accept.   >  Breathe  >  Eat Biscotti.   >  Surrender   >   Gratitude… REPEAT.
Now, do I also think negatively at times, worry a bit, be lazy, and eat food that will never biodegrade in my lifetime?  SURE I DO!
However, it’s the 80/20 … or the 90/10 … or the 70/30   I don’t know!
Life is in the rituals … so, for the sake of enjoying your life, choose rituals that empower you and bring you peace.
When my kids were young, what I list above would have sounded impossible, but honestly, 90% of what’s listed above …. were totally possible!
Find what works for you and gives a nice flow to your day.
And most of all … that remind you of your 24/7 connection to yourself and something bigger than you.
Mindfulness for those walks you’re taking.

Mindfulness for those walks you’re taking.

 

With all that is happening, I’ve decided to work on something I’ve been working on for YEARS … but I need a lot more practice.
So, now is the perfect time.
As Pema Chodron, Buddhist nun says, This moment is the perfect teacher.
This moment is the perfect teacher.
So, what am I working on?
Being present.
We’ve all heard about it.  It’s being present in the moment, so we can take in the moment fully.
I LOVE the idea of it … AND yet, it’s rather hard to do.
And totally worth it.
We can hear guidance.
There are TWO reasons why we want to be present or practice mindfulness right now:
First, In the present moment … we can hear guidance.  
We hear what we need to hear.
EVENTUALLY.
If you’ve been receiving my newsletter for some time, then you know I believe we ALL have a team in the spiritual world that is watching over us and helping us evolve and ultimately, fulfill our destiny.
Often this includes our loved ones who’ve passed.
Thankfully, I discovered this early on after my husband passed.
In the present moment … somehow A SPACE IS CREATED that invites in guidance.
Noticing the color of the sky and the sound of leaf blowers …
Whatever it is.
It’s the singular moment, and …. it’s right there.
Spirit seems to talk to us in these moments.
God, spirit or the universe … seems to talk to us in these moments.
And I love this so much I cannot begin to tell you.
So, when I walk each day I practice being present.  I do this by saying to myself: Look.  
I look around at all there is to look at and I focus on taking it in.
Yes, I get distracted and look at my phone to see what time it is:)
And yes, sometimes I get bored.
So, I notice this and say:  Look …
And I look again.
Then, a few moments later I say:  Listen.
Simply listen.
And I try for a couple minutes to listen to the sounds of whatever is happening around me.
I simply listen.
Now, I am NOT listening for a spiritual kind whispering or anything like that.  (Is there such a thing?)
Instead, I am listening to what is happening in the here and now.
From personal experience I can honestly say:  It is ten times easier to work through the gambit of human emotion … in the present moment.
The second reason to be present.
And the second reason why it’s totally worth it to be present is …
And please forgive me for stating the obvious, but in the present moment we AREN’T WORRIED ABOUT THE FUTURE OR PAST.
We’re just right there … a human being having a human moment.
In the present.
Later, when you least expect it.
And then later … when you least expect it, you get a flash of certainty … or extreme warmth and joy … or insight … or answers.
It comes out of nowhere … and it TOTALLY rocks.
I hope you’re doing well during this interesting time:)
#mindfulness

Thinking better thoughts … even in chaos:)