Christiane Northrup, M.D. is helping us understand how we can evade energy vampires.
I’m grateful because this topic comes up A LOT in my work as a soul coach. The power of thought and how negative thinking is literally killing people is the main theme in my futuristic book, The Thought Store.
Have you ever walked away from someone feeling blah or angry or anxious, and wondering what the heck happened?
And then you’re wondering how you got sucked in?
Because, the subject people seem to be bothered by, more than any other subject, is other people.
We can’t live with them, can’t live without them!
Can’t live with them … can’t live without them! 🙂
Other people is the number one reason people leave their jobs.
And sometimes, only sometimes … those “other people” are energy vampires.
Christiane Northrup’s best selling book: Dodging Energy Vampires: An Empath’s Guide to Evading Relationships that Drain You and Restoring Your Health and Power,
talks about this issue in depth.
And hey … we’ve all had bad days or months. Quite honestly, when my husband passed away, I wasn’t fun to be around for years.
It was tough, and I had to nurse my wounds for a long time.
But, do you have someone you’ve known forever and you feel drained by the relationship?
Or maybe you’ve known them for a short time, and you didn’t realize they were slowly draining the life out of you?
If you want a harmonious and fun life, this includes NOT allowing yourself to be drained by other people, even if you feel badly for them.
Thoughts to empower you.
You can affirm:
I love you, I forgive you, I’m letting you go.
I deserve peace.
I am only allowing peaceful relationships in my life.
I allow myself to protect my energy.
When I feel drained, I will take a look at what’s happening.
I am committed to being around good energy.
I am attracted loving, responsible, caring, empowered people into my life.
I am letting you go.
I believe life is in the daily rituals. The saying is actually, Life is in the details … but I like the word rituals.
It’s the rituals we do each day … that add up to our life.
Ritual – an act regularly repeated in a precise manner.
What do I love about rituals?
They connect me to my spirit and something bigger.
And that feels amazing.
The rituals I’m talking about …
- Daily prayers, mantras, affirmations.
- Checking in with myself emotionally.
- Letting go … repeatedly.
- Other rituals I LOVE.
Rituals are something I can COUNT on.
I love things I can count on.
Especially now …
It’s what I did DAILY that literally transformed my life.
Now, they are so much a part of my daily routine that I don’t have to think about them.
My rituals are waiting there like a cozy couch.
A TYPICAL DAY.
Wake up > Say gratitude prayer. > Breathe > High vibe mantras. > Say I love you a few times (a great high vibe thought) > Roll out of bed. > Drink the best coffee ever. > Be quiet. > Affirmations > Eat something with salsa. > Do work I enjoy. > Remind myself I’m OK. > Exercise: 4 sit-ups > Ask myself how I feel. > Release uncomfortable emotion. > Be mindless for awhile. > Do work I enjoy. > Do some work I don’t enjoy, but accept. > Breathe > Eat Biscotti. > Surrender > Gratitude… REPEAT.
Now, do I also think negatively at times, worry a bit, be lazy, and eat food that will never biodegrade in my lifetime? SURE I DO!
However, it’s the 80/20 … or the 90/10 … or the 70/30 I don’t know!
Life is in the rituals
… so, for the sake of enjoying your life, choose rituals that empower you and bring you peace.
When my kids were young, what I list above would have sounded impossible, but honestly, 90% of what’s listed above …. were totally possible!
Find what works for you and gives a nice flow to your day.
And most of all … that remind you of your 24/7 connection to yourself and something bigger than you.
I’m thinking of you all and sending my good thoughts and wishes your way.
I’ve been using this time we have now to reboot, reconnect with myself, and regroup about my future.
While this is a stressful time, it can also be a time for deepening our commitment to whatever we are committed to.
The world has hit the pause button. That’s how I am thinking about it.
For a world that is busy, busy …. hitting pause can create the space for something new to come in.
Or hitting pause can be a time for deeper spirituality.
Or reaching up and out and discovering what your piece is in this universe.
I realize these are huge questions and sometimes we are just making it through the day … but the bigger questions are sitting there, waiting to be asked.
If you feel like it …
What would you have me do with this time?
How can I share the biggest and best part of me?
Now, I don’t always feel like asking these bigger questions.
Sometimes, often lately, I need to just take time out.
However, once those moments pass … then I can refocus on what matters to me.
And I know that moment will always show itself.
We are all thinking constantly. It’s been measured that humans on average think around 60,000 thoughts a day. So don’t try to run away from them! Instead, practice relaxing with your thoughts while improving their quality.
One way to relax with your thoughts is to notice them without judgment. As we observe ourselves without judgment, we are developing a more loving relationship with ourselves, and tapping into our personal power.
What do you do when the negative, self-doubting, fear-based thoughts keep coming? First, remind yourself that you have the power to think differently. You really do. Then notice what you are thinking about. Just notice without judging. Look at your thoughts as though you are not attached to them.
They are just thoughts and can be changed in any moment.
Then ask yourself if these thoughts are true? Are they? Is what you are thinking about, worrying about … going to happen? Or are you thinking about the worst possible scenario? Over and over again? If you realize your thoughts are false, tell yourself that. “I know such and such isn’t true. I know it probably won’t happen. I’m just afraid it’ll happen.”
Then consciously choose better thoughts.
Thoughts that are worthy of your greatness.
You are a human being capable of unlimited change and growth. Believe that, because it’s true.
And if you don’t believe that yet, tell yourself you are developing your greatness. Because you are. We all are.
Have you ever asked yourself the question: Who or what am I capable of being?
Nothing like asking the big questions … right?
But seriously, I’m just asking …
Of course, it’s a personal question.
However, I ask because this question bobs around in my own mind ALL THE TIME.
Jeanne, who are you capable of being?
What are you capable of doing?
Are you doing it?
I sound like lots of fun, don’t I?
However, I ask with complete self-love … not judgement.
But, with a love of my own soul and it’s potential.
Then I usually think: I’m peddling as fast as I can here.
I’m doing the best I can.
And so are you.
When I think of all of the precious young and old and in between souls out there trying their damnedest to do something good …
It makes me feel good about humanity.
Never mind about the others.
So, each day I wake up and ask for help and guidance to guide me to my best potential.
And then I eat a bagel.
OK, that’s a lie … I try to not eat wheat.
But, I want a bagel.
Anyway, as you are giving what you are capable of into the world, you are peddling as fast as you can as well.
I know it.
Anyone who reads a newsletter about the soul and self-love and purpose and positive thinking … is OBVIOUSLY doing their best:)
So, here’s to doing the best we can …