Christiane Northrup, M.D. is helping us understand how we can evade energy vampires.
I’m grateful because this topic comes up A LOT in my work as a soul coach. The power of thought and how negative thinking is literally killing people is the main theme in my futuristic book, The Thought Store.
Have you ever walked away from someone feeling blah or angry or anxious, and wondering what the heck happened?
And then you’re wondering how you got sucked in?
Because, the subject people seem to be bothered by, more than any other subject, is other people.
We can’t live with them, can’t live without them!
Can’t live with them … can’t live without them! 🙂
Other people is the number one reason people leave their jobs.
And sometimes, only sometimes … those “other people” are energy vampires.
Christiane Northrup’s best selling book: Dodging Energy Vampires: An Empath’s Guide to Evading Relationships that Drain You and Restoring Your Health and Power,
talks about this issue in depth.
And hey … we’ve all had bad days or months. Quite honestly, when my husband passed away, I wasn’t fun to be around for years.
It was tough, and I had to nurse my wounds for a long time.
But, do you have someone you’ve known forever and you feel drained by the relationship?
Or maybe you’ve known them for a short time, and you didn’t realize they were slowly draining the life out of you?
If you want a harmonious and fun life, this includes NOT allowing yourself to be drained by other people, even if you feel badly for them.
Thoughts to empower you.
You can affirm:
I love you, I forgive you, I’m letting you go.
I deserve peace.
I am only allowing peaceful relationships in my life.
I allow myself to protect my energy.
When I feel drained, I will take a look at what’s happening.
I am committed to being around good energy.
I am attracted loving, responsible, caring, empowered people into my life.
I am letting you go.
I believe life is in the daily rituals. The saying is actually, Life is in the details … but I like the word rituals.
It’s the rituals we do each day … that add up to our life.
Ritual – an act regularly repeated in a precise manner.
What do I love about rituals?
They connect me to my spirit and something bigger.
And that feels amazing.
The rituals I’m talking about …
- Daily prayers, mantras, affirmations.
- Checking in with myself emotionally.
- Letting go … repeatedly.
- Other rituals I LOVE.
Rituals are something I can COUNT on.
I love things I can count on.
Especially now …
It’s what I did DAILY that literally transformed my life.
Now, they are so much a part of my daily routine that I don’t have to think about them.
My rituals are waiting there like a cozy couch.
A TYPICAL DAY.
Wake up > Say gratitude prayer. > Breathe > High vibe mantras. > Say I love you a few times (a great high vibe thought) > Roll out of bed. > Drink the best coffee ever. > Be quiet. > Affirmations > Eat something with salsa. > Do work I enjoy. > Remind myself I’m OK. > Exercise: 4 sit-ups > Ask myself how I feel. > Release uncomfortable emotion. > Be mindless for awhile. > Do work I enjoy. > Do some work I don’t enjoy, but accept. > Breathe > Eat Biscotti. > Surrender > Gratitude… REPEAT.
Now, do I also think negatively at times, worry a bit, be lazy, and eat food that will never biodegrade in my lifetime? SURE I DO!
However, it’s the 80/20 … or the 90/10 … or the 70/30 I don’t know!
Life is in the rituals
… so, for the sake of enjoying your life, choose rituals that empower you and bring you peace.
When my kids were young, what I list above would have sounded impossible, but honestly, 90% of what’s listed above …. were totally possible!
Find what works for you and gives a nice flow to your day.
And most of all … that remind you of your 24/7 connection to yourself and something bigger than you.
In this interesting time, I find two things happening.
First, sometimes I’m foggy headed, distracted, which way is up … headed.
Where’s my coffee or wine and which Netflix show will I serial watch tonight … is the #1 thing I care about.
And actually, it’s kind of relaxing to expect so little of myself:)
Ahh, self-love … bring it on.
Feeling a bit distracted by this sheer twilight zone world we are living in right now, is par for the course.
But, you knew that:)
However, there’s another feeling that’s really strong and it’s a deep desire to lean into my spirit.
A deep desire to lean into my spirit.
I LOVE leaning in.
What does that mean?
It’s connecting with the part of me that is eternal and connected to something bigger than me.
This greater something doesn’t care if I wear a face mask.
It doesn’t care if I don’t like using the Q word …
It doesn’t even care about the things I worry about.
It’s just still and steady.
It’s there for me.
Connecting with my own spirit.
Connecting with my own spirit is connecting to the strength within me.
While I may feel vulnerable at times … my spirit knows: I am OK … I am safe. I am secure.
My spirit knows this. It has no doubt.
You may have your own ways of connecting with your spirit.
Or maybe you call this feeling something else.
However, if this is sounding a bit too abstract …
And you’d like some concrete tips around this idea of leaning into your spirit, try this mini meditation:
Tree of life meditation
Take a deep breath and let go.
Now picture your head as the branches of a great tree that reaches up about 60 feet.
And picture your body the trunk of a tree: strong and solid.
Then, picture your lower body as the great roots of this great tree, descending into the ground and rooting you, grounding you, so you know you’re solidly connected to firm ground.
Now, with this visual, picture sunlight coming into the branches of the tree and filling up the branches down to the ends of the roots.
Just breathe as you visualize this bright light filling the tree that’s holding you.
In this safe place, know your spirit is there for you.
Stay here as long as you like or as long as you’re comfortable.
And don’t judge yourself if you get bored and want to run to In and Out Burger.
I did that yesterday.
That’s ok too:)
Just stay in your car and thank those adorable teenagers …
Stay safe … and wishing you a lovely evening.
#tree of life meditation
I’m thinking of you all and sending my good thoughts and wishes your way.
I’ve been using this time we have now to reboot, reconnect with myself, and regroup about my future.
While this is a stressful time, it can also be a time for deepening our commitment to whatever we are committed to.
The world has hit the pause button. That’s how I am thinking about it.
For a world that is busy, busy …. hitting pause can create the space for something new to come in.
Or hitting pause can be a time for deeper spirituality.
Or reaching up and out and discovering what your piece is in this universe.
I realize these are huge questions and sometimes we are just making it through the day … but the bigger questions are sitting there, waiting to be asked.
If you feel like it …
What would you have me do with this time?
How can I share the biggest and best part of me?
Now, I don’t always feel like asking these bigger questions.
Sometimes, often lately, I need to just take time out.
However, once those moments pass … then I can refocus on what matters to me.
And I know that moment will always show itself.
Have you seen the movie, Jerry McGuire? It got the Oscar for Best Picture in 1997 … And best actor, best supporting actor, etc.
And, it’s one of my all time favorite movies.
Jerry is “holding on by a thin thread” … as Cuba Gooding Jr. says in the movie.
He has this moment at the beginning where he begins to question his entire life. He sees himself and his life and says: I hated myself …. no, that’s not it, I hated my place in the world.
So, Jerry decides to change his life.
And of course, it ain’t easy.
Jerry has issues …
Jerry has intimacy issues … He’s told: You’re a great friend, but bad at intimacy.
Because he’s lived on the surface.
And lied to get what he wants.
However, he discovers something worth going through ALL OF THE DISCOMFORT for: He discovers he wants to be true to himself.
I admire him.
Because he jumps into the well with courage.
He takes the call.
He takes the call.
If you’re standing at the edge of a well, looking down and wondering what you will do with your life, good for you.
I was pushed into that well long ago.
I know many who take this call in their 20’s … even better!
The sooner the better.
And to reassure you, you have everything you need … to take that call.