5 Things You Need to Know About Your Spirit Guides!
Your spirit guides are with you constantly. It’s as natural as your cat following you around the house.
And, you have an entire spirit team in the spirit world to help you fulfill your destiny.
I believe they played a major role in helping me find myself after my husband passed away years so.
What you need to know about your spirit guides…
Your spirit team
You have an entire spirit team to help you evolve and fulfill your destiny. This includes guardian angels, spirit guides, and deceased loved ones.
1. Spirit guides are real
Are spirit guides real? Absolutely.
I didn’t have the concept of spirit guides or the spirit world until my husband passed away years ago. Since then a series of events have helped me welcome their presence in my life.
Now, I rely on their guidance and trust them.
Every person has one, two or more spirit guides with them throughout life.
Part of spirituality is acknowledging things we can’t see…
What are spirit guides?
Spirit Guides are beings of light, outside the physical world, that offer comfort and guidance for you along your soul’s path. They help you achieve your highest good and greatest healing.
Spirit guides may have been on earth before…. but maybe not.
Our guides speak to us through our five senses and we all communicate with them differently. How you hear your spirit guides may be totally different from how I hear mine.
- Feelings
- Seeing
- Hearing
- Smell/Taste
- Impressing us with thoughts.
2. Spirit guides can visit you in dreams
Six months after my husband passed he came to me in a dream.
In my dream, I was vacuuming a very sterile, but bright, white house and the doorbell rang. It’s my husband and he looks healthy, happy, and so big he couldn’t get through the door.
He looked like a Greek God.
I’m shocked to see him and I say: What are you doing here?
This is all in the dream…
So, we had a conversation I won’t get into, but it was so real.
You’ve had that happen right?
Where a snippet of your dream feels so real that you’re convinced that it really happened.
After this happened I became obsessed with the idea of loved ones who’ve passed visiting us in dreams.
I read.. The Dreamers Book of the Dead: A Soul Travelers Guide to Death, Dying and the Other Side.
This book describes dream visitations like they’re a normal occurrence and doesn’t everyone have them?
Later, thank goodness, my husband made it clear to me that he was one of my guides.

3. You have more than one spirit guide
According to Rebecca Rosen in Spirited we have multiple spirit guides, about 2 or 3 in daily life.
Guardian angels are with us from birth until death, but not spirit guides. They are with us for as long as we both need to work together.
Sometimes it’s deceased relatives, but not usually.
I had never even heard the term spirit guides until six months after my husband passed.
The entire idea was pleasing to me, but foreign.
I liked the idea of having someone above guiding me, comforting me and looking out for me another than guardian angels, but I had to get used to the idea it was real.
Although by husband visited me in a dream, he did not tell me that he was a spirit guide of mine or make any reference to that. He had other messages to deliver to me about my life and my destiny.
It wasn’t until my mother’s childhood friend came out of nowhere and told me that my husband was one of my spirit guides.
I felt I had one spirit guide with me all of the time and now I was certain that I had at least two…
By the time she told me, I had guessed it because at this point I was reading all kinds of material about the spiritual realm.
4. You can talk to your spirit guides
Let’s step back for a moment. If it’s true that spirit guides are looking out for your highest good and greatest healing, you’d obviously want to talk with them regularly.
But how is that convo supposed to go?
First, there are NO hard and fast rules, except this one: Ask for guidance with an honest heart.
You can’t fake it with your guides.
So, you start with: Please help me with BLANK. Or, please guide me about BLANK. Or, please comfort me as I go to the dentist.
Or, keep your request open-ended
Or, if you don’t have a specific problem as this: Universe, what would you have me do?
It’s that simple. What would you have me do?
I did this while visiting my son in New York one summer and received the most interesting answer that I didn’t expect.
Oh, and the answer didn’t come for 2 weeks after my trip!
But after you ask, practice quieting your mind. The best way is to focus on your breath, as we do in meditation.
Meditation in daily life will help you connect with your spirit guides, ascended masters, akashic guides, and other beings of light in the spiritual realm.
Watch your 60,000 thoughts come and go, as I talk about in The Thought Store, as you focus on your breath.
Now, this is REALLY hard to do.
At least I think so.
And do this for 3 minutes, 10 minutes, or hours, depending on how long you can sit in your own presence while acknowledging a greater presence.
This greater presence can be God, your spirit guides, the universe, or whatever that looks like for you.
Choose the spiritual belief system that resonates with your soul.
Not my soul.
Not your mom’s soul.
Not your friend’s soul who is on a different path… Not family members.
Not someone trying to push their religion… nope. Your soul.

New age and modern mystics
Actually, I am not drawn to most new-age ideas. I’ve never been to a psychic or a tarot card reader and I don’t want my aura read, etc.
Most of that isn’t interesting to me.
Not that there’s anything wrong with it! (Thank you Seinfeld…)
But, with spirit guides, now we’re talking about a close and intimate relationship with the spirit world… that feels accessible to me.
SYNCHRONICITY
I have to throw in a word on synchronicity, although I talk about it more in my post of soul-searching.
Synchronicity is a meaningful coincidence.
When something feels like… oh, what a coincidence, but it’s not!
There’s deeper meaning behind what happened that we can learn from.
Develop a Relationship
For me, like the book Conversations with God by Neale Donald Walsch, it’s about having a relationship with your spirit guides.
And how do we have any close relationship?
- We check in regularly.
- We ask for advice.
- We’re honest about what we’re feeling.
- We listen to what they’re telling us.
5. Your spirit guides will help you find yourself
Absolutely, spirit guides will help you find yourself.
The period after my husband passed was obviously very, very difficult. We had two sons, ages 11 and 17 and all of us were grief-stricken.
I talk about the stages to finding yourself again after loss, if you want more detail. But, for this article, I only want to talk about the role my spirit guides played.
Once I realized that…
- I had spirit guides and,
- My husband was a spirit guide,
- They were there to help me heal… I leaned on them heavily.
Quite honestly, I was talking to the wall half the time, my therapist, my wonderful mother and my friends… but I was so eager to bring in more spiritual guidance.
So, during this period of grief and feeling lost, they comforted me A LOT. Maybe it was because I knew my husband was with me as well, but their comfort was huge for me.
Plus, they planted the idea of a book in my head about a caterpillar who doesn’t believe she can be a butterfly.
And then, they planted another idea in my mind about the power of high-vibe thinking.
Shoot, I think they were nudging me with great ideas all of the time!
Ask for Signs
Sometimes I’ll ask specifically for a sign. For example, please give me a sign if this is the right direction to take my business.
Or, please let me know if this relationship is the right fit for me.
You may not get an answer right away, or your guide might be holding back because they want you to figure it out yourself.
Each spirit guide has a different way of working with us.
How to ask for Signs
As Rebecca Rosen says, Just ask!
Kind of like Nike.. Just do it!
It doesn’t have to be a formal thing or a seance or anything like that!
Just speak from the heart. Show them your sincere desire to understand, to have help, to learn and grow.
Meditation is strongly encouraged as it helps you to quiet your mind and hear guidance.
Each morning, I sit quietly and breathe deeply for about three breaths.
Then, I say: I invite my Guardian angel and Spirit guides into the moment with me. Thank you. Would you please help me with….
Recent activity with my spirit guides
I’ve been doing a lot of spiritual work lately, focused more than usual in a certain area of my life, mainly: being present and shrinking the pain body that Eckhart Tolle speaks about.
Interestingly, I’ve been walking the same path for my morning walk for about five years and I recently found a new path. I love this new path and I feel the presence of spirit very deeply on this path.
Over the past two weeks, literally DOZENS of dragonflies have been around me along my walk. I didn’t think it was unusual at first, even though I thought it was very cool. After a few days I realized… this is something more.
Then, last week I pop out of my car to pick up this rock that I saw and liked… yea, I love rocks. While I’m getting the rock, a dragonfly enters my car.
One dragonfly gets in the passenger seat!
So, now I notice. I believe that insects, animals etc. that pop onto your path can be symbolic and usually are. I know this one arrived with spirit’s help.
My guides are with me always and I knew they were giving me this gift to tell me that they’re with me. Also, to tell me that the work I’m doing is being noticed and that new transitions are coming.
I look up dragonfly symbolism, “In almost every part of the world, the Dragonfly symbolizes change, transformation, adaptability, and self-realization.”
Connect with your spirit guides in nature
I’ve found that it’s easier for me to feel the presence of my spirit guides when I’m in nature. Some people I’ve talked with have nature spirits.
Personally, I’ve never encountered nature spirits, so it’s not part of my spiritual practice.
One advantage of nature is that you can quiet the mind more easily, and therefore feel elevated, higher vibration, and positive vibes.
In this higher state, invite in your spirit guides and ask for clarity, guidance, or more information.
Final thoughts
You have spirit guides who are part of a spirit team that will help you along your soul’s path.
Spirit guides and will not jump in unless invited, unless it’s a life saving situation. You have free will. But, they’re there to help you.
Lean on a particular spirit guide if you feel connected to one over another, as I do my husband.
Spirit guides are here to assist God in helping you fulfill your brightest potential and greatest healing once we’ve mastered life’s lessons.