Positive thinking is great, as long as it’s not toxic positivity.
In terms of negative thinking, if people think and talk negatively, it influences everyone around them. Like the big dirt cloud that hovers above Pigpen in Charlie Brown.
Use that visual, I always do.
When you’re around people spewing toxic stuff, run away, far away.
Because thoughts have energy… low, high and in the middle.
However, toxic positivity isn’t the answer by a long shot. Toxic positivity means you’re ignoring, stuffing down, avoiding your feelings, so you’ll appear positive. This is a recipe for disaster.
Don’t do it!
Instead, feel what is real for you, always, THEN, choose thoughts that empower you and others.
The number one reason people want to quit jobs, relationships, situations, etc. is being overcome with hopelessness. There are ways to think about yourself, your life, and your ability to make a difference that can change how you feel.
Our thoughts affect our emotions!
Many people feel overwhelmed by a challenging situation at home or work. It’s the number one reason people feel bogged down in negative thinking. Instead, feel what you feel… feel it! Then, adjust how you view the situation and how you think about it.
There’s a balance of feeling and thinking that takes some practice.
And positive thinking is a skill.
Science tells us that our thinking affects the body, how we feel, and those around us. When we are feeling low energy, stressed, afraid, worried, etc. better thoughts quickly lift our energy. This isn’t theory, it’s fact.
If we think about what scares us, we feel more afraid. If we worry about what can go wrong … we will see all that can go wrong. If we focus on what we don’t have, we will feel like we don’t have enough. We will feel deprived and lacking. What we focus on gets bigger in our lives.
While thinking high quality is key to feeling better, feeling positive, feeling empowered, sometimes people make the mistake of ignoring how they FEEL! When we allow our emotions, we honor ourselves.
As soon as you start something new, you will get resistance from somewhere. This is why coaching works so well, when you feel resistance, you have someone to walk you through it.